I just don't think I can cope anymore!

[Msqueen33]

It's obviously the Easter holidays so there's no break but I just can't cope anymore. The kids are 7,6 and 3. Six year old has autism, adhd and spd and the toddler years nearly broke me it was beyond hard. Now youngest is showing signs of asd. She's recently been diagnosed with having coeliac so hasn't been well but she's such hard work. No speech, constantly jumping on things all over me, doesn't play, screams constantly and has now taken to hitting me. 7 year old winds up the six year old. I feel with the youngest I'm reliving the nightmare of my middle child's toddler years. She's so hard to be around. She's constantly miserable. I see and read people talking about their delightful toddlers and I can't relate. And I hate myself for it but I resent having had her. I know it's not her fault and it's obviously hard for her but I'm so tired. So tired of feeling like all I'm doing is looking after a giant baby. My dh has a busy job and although says he gets it really doesn't. Our sex life has dried up, he wants constant physical attention but I'm exhausted. Emotionally, mentally and physically. I love them all immensely but I'm beginning to feel like I hate my life.

[Cakescakescakes]

Do you get DLA? Could you apply for it for your ASD diagnosed child and use it to pay for a specialist babysitter to allow you a break? You're not alone - I almost had a breakdown when ds1 was younger. Sorry I don't have any more advice. It's so hard

[Laurajay84]

I'm not an expert but I have read many articles where children with Coeliac disease can display traits similar to autism purely because they are feeling unwell and it affects general functioning. Maybe once she starts on her new diet things will improve with her general happiness and development?

[SENMumoftwo]

You really aren't alone. I think we all go through this. I know I do. A lot!!

Could you apply for DLA, as previously suggested? It helps my DD (ASD) to get a much needed break from her PDA brother!! Or is there any real life support for you?

Sorry I don't have any 'answers' as such. But you're not alone.

[shazzarooney99]

As said before you are not alone, hope you have a better day today xxxx

[Msqueen33]

Thanks all. It's nice knowing I'm not alone. Just turned three year old surpassed herself today and stripped off at soft play. Mortified just about describes it.

[shazzarooney99]

Msqueen33, there will be a time when your passed getting mortified, we once got threatened with the police in Sainsburys when my son was having a meltdown. I am at the point where i dont get so mortified about anything, it will pass, you will get harder minded about these things, we were on a ride the other day at Butlins and my other son said something to my son and my son said shut up you wanker!!! I told him off for his laungage and told him he would be going back to the chalet to stay in for the rest of the night, but the lady at the back of us her face was priceless!