I have a 5 year old dd whose behaviour I am finding very difficult. I have 6 children and of them all she is the only one I have ever been in tears over!
I have spoken to the health visitor who is speaking to the school nurse but tbh I'm finding it hard to pin down an actual problem since she can be great one day and horrific the next!
If I list some of my worries would you be able o suggest at least any possibilities for me or of it sounds like normal child behaviour please say so!
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She has difficulty making friends (she has no friends at all) although she is lovely and sociable with adults and she seems to be polite and sociable with children but for some reason she finds it impossible to turn that into even basic friendship.
She totally refuses to listen to instructions. You can literally ask/ tell her to do something like get dressed and she won't even look at your or acknowledge you have spoken . If you look her right in the eye and ask her "what have I just asked you" she can repeat it and yet she then gets distracted again before she has done it. This happens almost any time she is asked to do something.
She has struggled a lot with toilet training. She has only been dry in the day since starting year 1. She still needs nappies at night.
She is a danger around the baby because she just doesn't seems to get that she could hurt her if she for example picks her up by the head. I can't actually go downstairs after putting the baby to bed in case my older dd comes out of her room into the baby.
School have had her in a special group to help with her concentration during carpet time (she couldn't sit still)
These issues have been issues both at home and school but not as often at school. She has been in trouble mainly for the refusing to listen thing at school only occassionally for violence
She physically attacked our go a year ago when I took her for a urine infection. I mean biting kicking and punching and screaming. I have no idea what happened.
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She does very well at school and is in the top groups etc.
She is actually very loving when she wants to be!
She tries hard to please - she just doesn't really seem to get there a lot of the time.
Does anyone have any suggestions where I could start trying to help her?
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