Advice please for research and info....

[lazyleo]

I'm not sure if I should be here but wondered if some of you could tell me what you think.
I have a 6 year old girl and 3 year old boy. They are as different as chalk and cheese. She excelled with verbal communication from a young age ('your dog is under the bench because it is frightened' she told a lady in the park when she was 18 months.) I accepted the compliments on her speech but still really thought its was normal as she was my first child. She is generally compliant, understood and reacted to stop, no, its dangerous. I rarely have to give her into trouble, except now she gets a bit whiny when she is tired. She is very placid.
My son is a whirlwind, he constantly runs, spins, whirls. Everyone has commented on it since he was tiny asking does he ever stop, is really like this all the way to bedtime? (he was an early walker, not a talker) His speech isn't as good as his sisters, but he is a) a boy and b) a second child and c) you shouldn't compare should you and d) I think its about comparable (there I go again!) to his peers at nursery.
He is constantly fidgeting when I get him to sit, he takes some quiet / slightly still-er time after nursery when he has lunch and watches paw patol or blaze. Getting him to sit at the table for dinner is always a battle. He is kneeling on his seat, turning round, touching his sister with his feet (no aggression, not kicking)
I'm thinking poss ADHD or poss just a standard toddler? I've no experience with boys, i was an only child. His behaviour drives me nuts, I feel like I constantly have to physically stop him from moving, he has little sense of danger (though it is improving), he doesn't seem to learn from accidents (he jumped of the bed and got hurt, then did it again the next day despite knowing it is absolutely not allowed in our house) This is one example of many. He is hugely affectionate, he loves playing with cars and things with wheels, he is excellent at building duplo. I find it hard to play with him though because his idea of playing is to crash, bang and break things. He is forever breaking toys. Am I just being silly and this is the life of a typical toddler boy's mummy?! I know any diagnosis wouldn't even begin to commence until school age, but I guess I just want to know if any of these are warning signs, or if I should relax and accept he is a little dynamo.

I hope no-one minds me posting here, the last things I want to do is intrude to a place where i don't belong and to detract from the some of the very real and difficult issues that many kids and parents have to deal with day to day.

Thanks for taking the time to read :)

[Flanks]

For what it is worth he sounds like a normal toddler. My 30month old is constantly switched on until bed time!

Nothing wrong with comparisons by the way. Quite normal for any parent, and it is a valuable way of tracking his development.

[lazyleo]

Thank you :) I'm hoping swimming lessons will happen after the easter break - he's quite high on the list now apparatly. But he hates water in his ears, so not sure how this is going to go! Most kids cover their eyes when they get hair washed, not him! He screams and covers his ears lol!. But I digress :D thank you so much both of you lovely ladies (or gents!) I think I focus ont he communication because it could be the main factor in the difference between them. She understood so well and carried out instruction whereas he is airy fairy, not listening, not focussing, getting his jacket and shoes off can take 10 mins and I've got to stop myself just doing it for him (tempting!) but then he'll never learn. I think I may just have to accept this is normal second child and boy behaviour. Thank you again