I would really appreciate some advice. ds1, who has suspected ASD, has been going to pre-school for a year now. He absolutely loves it and loves the other children (he loves all other children and wants to be friends and play with every one he sees and doesn't understand if they don't) but since christmas he has been refusing to come home. I have to physically drag him home kicking and screaming, which is hard because he is big and i am also pushing ds2 in the buggy. He bites and scratches me. I am covered in bruises.
He goes 5 half days a week. Mon and thurs afternoons and tues, weds, fri mornings and stays for lunch tues & weds. These are the only sessions available.
This week it has got so bad that on Tuesday (the worst day as his best friend stays on) he smashed up the house when we got home, slamming and kicking the doors, pulled all the pictures of the mantle piece, tried to climb out of the window, bit ds2, was choking and gagging and banging his head on the walls he was so hysterical. I had to lay on the floor holding him tight to stop him hurting himself or us.
Today i tried to bribe him with a trip to lidl on the way home to get a cookie, which hasn't worked before but seemed to today. But when we got in there he didn't just want his cookie he wanted to get a trolley and do a full shop (he loves food shopping) i said no, that we had to get home becasue grandad was watching the baby but he ran away and i spent about half hour chasing him around the supermarket. I had to hide like a prat and jump out as he ran past, i caught him by his hood and then had to drag him home kicking and screaming. When we got in he laid on the floor screaming for half an hour.
This happens now when we have to leave anywhere, bounce, soft play, shops, parks etc.
The paed and the people who have met him say he is so focussed on what he wants that nothing else even exists to him.
But i cannot go on like this. As much as he loves pre-school and as much as he has developed and thrived there i am tempted to stop taking him. I know it sounds terrible but i could just let him watch paw patrol all day and not get beaten up.
I don't know how much longer i can do it.
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ds1 (3.5) refusing to come home from pre-school or anywhere
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