Hi there,
Quite new here and could really do with some friendship and advice! Basically, I'm starting to really struggle.
Something that I'm finding quite hard recently is meeting Mums or explaining things briefly to new Mums I meet.
My little one is in Reception at school and has been gradually building up her time. She has recently started staying all day so now I collect at school gates with the other Mums. I do know (not closely) one or two other Mums who kind of know what's going on. I just feel it's hard to explain the situation, sometimes in such a brief walk out of school at drop off or at busy parties! I know I don't have to, but would like them to know there are difficulties. A lot prob are curious/have an idea, but I don't want my little girl and our family to be seen as that wierd family or myself as a sh*t Mum. The children are mentioning that my little girl doesn't talk - so they prob know something is going on. How do you briefly explain things when it is not always physically obvious.
To fill u in briefly, our daughter is 4 and has had Sen referral and 1-1 in pre-school for high anxiety, problems with social interaction and some "unusual behaviours". She is now at school and will play, does struggle with interaction, won't talk so is likely to be diagnosed with selective mutism, some unusual, poss sensory behaviours when anxious or perhaps over excited. We have seen Paed, had play therapy, had motor skill assessment and have Ed Psych meeting in a few weeks.
At a recent party in front of the other mums, she had a meltdown due to anxiety/busy/noisy environment and had tantrum, hurt me and started removing clothes :-( I don't want people to think she is just naughty or we are strange. I feel I cope well in those situations (outwardly and practically anyway!) and calm her and kind of make light with other mums - hint at complex struggles.
Finding it hard at mo. She is popular within the classroom thankfully, but I know she hasn't been invited to some parties. When we walk home from school at end of the day, all her friends say hi/bye to her and it is lovely but so awkward as she won't answer, acknowledge or look at them. I see it makes her happy as she kind of holds in a smile. Obv the parents prob think she's rude or just shy. I then do the whole polite think in asking my daughter to say hi/bye BUT I know I am not supposed to pressurise her into talking! What can I do. How do you briefly explain to other parents? We have no formal diagnosis of anything at the moment and there are just many struggles.
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Blossom4538 · 07/02/2016 10:47
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