Hi everyone
First time posting on this board - sorry, but I need some advice please.
My step son is 12 and has always been a little different to other kids. But I'm worried now it might be something more. For background, he's been with us since he was 3 - his real mum isn't really around.
We have always said he is very much like my brother - he was DX as autistic 2 years ago at age 25.
Basically, he is socially awkward. He doesn't seem to want to engage with us at home (there are six of us) and will spend every minute by himself. He has never managed to have close friends and when he is with his younger siblings he regresses to being a toddler - making daft noises and acting in a very immature way.
He struggles at school (despite being moved ahead a year in infant school - he was moved back after a couple of years) and is below average for where he should now be. However, he has a brilliant technical mind and will fix anything and everything without even really trying!
The other things that bother me are his lack of common sense (he actually ran in front of a car the other day to get past it quickly rather than waiting for it to go past, and he doesn't seem to grasp how to do day to day things - he still struggles to tell the time and tie his shoelaces). He's a huge hoarder and gets attached to anything and everything, including pebbles and rocks from the garden! He's also a very picky eater - given the choice he would eat plain pasta with no sauce, tender meat (nothing that you have to chew) and pizza (but he takes the cheese off!). He doesn't really want to eat a normal meal (which unfortunately the in laws pander to which makes it worse).
He also takes no pride in his appearance - he doesn't even seem to be able to get dressed properly, let alone think about doing his hair (his 9 year old brothers are very style conscious).
I'm sorry if I'm rambling but I just feel that something isn't right. Maybe one of those things in isolation wouldn't bother me, but there are so many things that aren't quite right.
I would be grateful to hear any thoughts. I don't mean to concentrate on the negatives as he's a lovely boy, but I have to spew out the negative stuff to hopefully get some help from you knowledgeable lot.
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.
SN children
Gut feeling re autism - help please
MummyBex1985 · 02/01/2016 21:39
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