Why Assembly?

[shazzarooney99]

so normally my son kicks off every single night, hes now been good at home for a few days at night and started not wanting to go to school.

Every morning, "i dont want to go to school, i feel sick, i dont want to go into assembly, they are going to force me!"

Now by hook or by crook i have got him into school, even if we have been late, learning mentor has been meeting him giving him a bit of chill out time then taking him into class.

This morning we had the same again, but then he said im gonna kill myself at school, hes always threatening to kill himself and sometimes he will try, so i told school, anyway tommorow there is going to be no assembly so we will see what happens.

The school see it from the point hes been ok going into assembly for the last few years so they want to keep pushing him into it, i think do they really have too? will it create a bigger problem if they dont force him in? but then again if its stressing him that much??? I have thought about approaching school and saying can he just not go into assembly? but why after all this time? and why does he feel this way about assembly?

[shazzarooney99]

Thanks poulter, when he was smaller and in nursery he just used to scream, then he went ok or while then in year 2 the dinner hall, then it went ok for a bit now year 4 its started again xx

[Twoseventhsaweasley]

I am not sure if I can be of any help, but my year 2 DS has always hated assembly.

Assemblies where there is a chance he might be called upon such as "star of the week" and unusual ones like Remembrance Day are especially stressful. He has habit of hiding in the toilets to try to avoid them.

He finds being allowed to choose where he sits, sitting next to an adult and knowing as much as possible about what is going to happen in the assembly helpful.

[shazzarooney99]

Thanks, my son is now allowed to sit beside teacher but hes still fretting over it and a teacher, he says she shouts, she says different, this morning in front of the school learning mentor he called her evil!

i dont know which i prefer, him kicking off at night or in the morning!