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Don't know what to call this,I'm so sad

(9 Posts)
kojackscat Sat 05-Sep-15 13:27:39

Ds is really struggling with the school holidays, and starts a new school next week. So I understand where all the anxiety is coming from, but today is dreadful. In the last hour I've been kicked and punched in the head three times.
I feel dizzy and sick and so, so sad.

Dh has put ds in his room, more for my protection than any other reason, but we can't keep him.trapped in there all day
He calms down then as soon as he gets out he attacks me again. If I go out he will turn his aggression to do, so that's not a solution.

PolterGoose Sat 05-Sep-15 13:56:08

(((hugs)))

We had a rough couple of weeks ending the holidays here too, it's no easier when you know 'why', but it will pass flowers

Ineedmorepatience Sat 05-Sep-15 18:38:26

Really feel for both of you sad

I hope once your boys are settled back into school routine things will settle down again.

No help but flowers brew wine cake

kojackscat Sat 05-Sep-15 20:44:25

Thanks both. The dreadful behaviour went on all day. Thank goodness for melatonin, we now have some respite.

PolterGoose Sat 05-Sep-15 21:15:16

Sometimes you just have to ride it out, make no demands and give lots of food and nice drinks, don't tell off and just aim for basic safety and no more. It feels counterintuitive to do nothing, but it can be for the best flowers

kojackscat Sat 05-Sep-15 21:44:48

Trouble is dh gets v cross, as does dd. I can't expect her to get hurt and not react, she tries her best, but it's v hard for her.
This just escalates it all.
Somehow even though I remain the calmest ( not totally calm all the time but it takes a long time for me to get angry) I get the worst of the violence.

Ineedmorepatience Sat 05-Sep-15 22:12:06

Its because he knows you will keep coming back for more kojack its that unconditional love thing! flowers

shazzarooney99 Sun 06-Sep-15 00:14:25

we usually have this, however, for the past few weeks all we have is, "i feel sick" i"i dont want to go back to school" as soon as he gets back in school the violence will start,we usally get it in the holidays but for some reason we havent this time.

Its hard,hugs xxxxxxx

PolterGoose Sun 06-Sep-15 08:39:30

It's fine and perfectly normal for dh to feel cross, but he has to learn to present a calm facade. Otherwise he's both modelling anger and fuelling ds's anger.

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