Heartbroken 10 yea old with learning of a 4year old

[garyxxtina]

Hiya all for the last year my son who has survive special needs has been doing multi fighting martial arts and done well, we'll let me explain he has these lil tantrums like a 2year old and gets very upset well anyway I've not been going with him for a few weeks now but decided to go last night and watch how he was doing he's now on green one certain boy and his family has been causing problems for us well last night this lad kicked fell over and hurt himself so my son carried on with the grand master and the other lad came back in and joined in and he was working with my son he started to upset my little lad and was swearing at him and saying it was his fault and it wasn't my son went into the toilet and was sobbing yes he did wrong he was banging and crying telling us all to leave him alone this was going on for about 15 mins or so left of the lesson he was screaming cause he was very upset so I walked out and left his dad to sort him,

Well at the end I went over to get my son and come home as I nearly got home I see the grandmaster come past in his car off to see the owner of the village hall and next min he's walking up the road to me and having words saying how Brandon was in the wrong for kicking off I told him I understood and said I wanted to go home he then was walking behind us and I was talking to my son and he started ranting and raving at me we felt threatened cause what he does... Now none of my 2 are aloud back its like they are bullying my kids cause first my oldest son was kicked out now my other 2 but it's ok for people to miss months or weeks and grade and for them to bully my son but it's my kids that ain't aloud back but it's ok for this certain boy to bully and swear and the teachers turn a blind eye

I'm so depressed as my kids feel bullied and the others are laughing and getting away with what they do include mess around and get away with it at the end of day my daughter is 18 and done nothing wrong but still not aloud back my son does one thing not aloud back but these kids do stuff mess around cry say they can't do it slide across the floor nothing is done and everything they do nothing is done or said soon as it's mine there straight there kicking my kids out!!

What can I do????

[garyxxtina]

Could people email me please

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[GreenWalls]

I think you need to get some support to help you to understand your son and his behaviour, and to help you talk to other people working with him to help them understand that they must make provision for him if they can.

Does he have any diagnosis of SEN? I wasn't sure from your first line. How is he getting on at school? Do you work with the SENCO?

[PacificDogwood]

I am not sure that I understand the situation, but you do sound distraught.

Does your son have a diagnosed conditions?
What support does he/you have?
And what does your 18 yo daughter have to do with any of this?

There are some very knowledgable people on this SN board who I am sure will be happy to share their advice on the thread - I don't think that emailing is a good idea.

[garyxxtina]

Green walls we are seeing special doctors there trying to get a diagnoses for him and they have said it's not autistic something deeper, the people who are the teachers at MFA knew this when my son joined up he's very far behind at school and I am trying to do everything I can to get him in a special needs school but it's all about time ;( yea I've been working with SENCO at the school since he started school x

[garyxxtina]

I'm so upset for him at the end of the day my son has been treat differently and I feel that they turn a blind eye with all the other kids but My son one thing wrong he's out no we haven't yet we have to see the doctor again in October they said it's not autistic it's something deeper but can't say what until he knows and done more tests ADHD AND ADD was mentioned at one point no I don't have no support only the school and when I have IEP reviews but no one else helps me :,(

My 18 year old daughter goes to the same kickboxing class and isn't aloud back either she's text the owners there reading and ignoring her it's not fair

[garyxxtina]

It makes me angry that the owners of kickboxing new what my son was like and all his needs but they just kicked him but other kids that don't have special needs at the group kick off and refuse to do stuff but nowt it said to them it feels like he's bullied cause of his needs x