Very brief background: DD (3.5) is being assessed for ASD, probably at the Aspergers end as I am. She does have problems making friends as she plays way below her chronological age. I do t want to bore anyone and I'm not sure how much detail is relevant!
She cannot bring herself to say she is sorry to anyone except me, and that is only when she is already upset because she's in trouble or when she can clearly see I'm upset. If she has hurt someone (always unintentional) she looks worriedly at me and freezes - mild panic iyswim. She doesn't know how to respond but is distressed. If I press her to say sorry she cries and says she can't. She knows the difference between cant/wont!
I looked it up online and read that a lot of kids with ASD cannot say they are sorry if they aren't/don't recognise they are as it would be untrue. I get that, but social wheels do need greasing! Please please please can anyone think of a way to get her to make some sign of remorse or apology that would be acceptable to other kids and their parents? At least until she is old enough to understand the nuances of white lies? Other parents don't understand and I can't really blame them!
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Won't/can't say sorry - please help!
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VikingLady · 25/08/2015 19:59
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