DS is 6 and diagnosed HFA and he generally manages amazingly well but he is hugely controlling. I'm struggling during this long summer holiday. I'm a lone parent and he's an only child.
We tried to play tennis in the park today at his request, but if it didn't go exactly as he wanted it (I'm not that skilled that I can land the ball on a postage stamp) he couldn't handle it and a mini meltdown ensued.
I couldn't cope with the constant, loud telling off from him in front of an audience in the park, so I told him game was off and we tried a game of catch with those sticky things instead. Same story, and when the ball hit his cheek by mistake (not hard, just my dodgy aim again) he started yelling and screaming as if I'd fired a cannonball hard at him on purpose. He did calm down after a cuddle, but I decided to abandon that game too.
I'm finding his reaction difficult to manage and I'm thinking that games are going to be off-limits. He's the same with board games, role-play, everything really has to be done exactly as he prescribes.
I understand it's part of his autism, but god it's exhausting.
He's an amazing little lad - kind, thoughtful, smart, funny and all round beautiful and I feel really guilty about my exasperation.
Is there anything anyone can suggest to help him loosen his need for control and how I might manage it and my reaction to it a bit better?
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QueenVictoria11 · 02/08/2015 21:43
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