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[bear73]

I'm not even sure I am posting this is the right place but I have a feeling my daughter has Sensory Processing issues and she is having a terrible time at nursery.

She seems to be having real problems with social interaction and annoys children alot by tapping them or pulling them. Since she started there in Sept I have been spoken to by the teacher quite a few times and she has said things like

she is un-coperative, won't sing or join in actions, won't sit still, sits too close to children and refuses to move when asked, won't approach other children to play, follows one girl around and wants to do everything she does, gets annoyed when children come and interrupt what she's doing, has poor spatial awreness.

When she first started she pinched a girl on the arm and I was told about this. This is very unlike her and I have never known her to hurt a child ever. At home she is very well behaved and well disciplined. yesterday I was told she bit a boy. I was mortified. I hate taking her there now and am becoming very stressed and depressed by it all. I have arranged for her to see an Occupational Therapist on 25th Nov for a full assessment. I need to get to the bottom of her issues.

DD has trouble with scissors, can't do them at all and also could not jump until she was way over 3. She was awful to toilet train, 3 1/2 before we got anywhere and there are lots of other things aswell.

I feel lost and I don't know what to do.

thanks
bear

[coppertop]

It sounds as though there could well be some sensory issues from your post. Hopefully the OT will help with these.

My ds1 has problems with other children getting too close at school, particularly at carpet-time. It really helped when he was given a cushion to sit on. It defined his personal space for him and children didn't sit quite so close.

Have the nursery staff recognised that dd might have some SN? Are they going to speak to the SENCO for you? (special needs co-ordinator)

Keep posting if it helps. xxx

[bear73]

Thank you for replying. The nursery have not been helpful at all, and only ever call me in to tell me if something has happened. I have told them she is not like this at home and never hurt a child at her old pre-school or any other kids club or place she has been with other kids.

I know she is a bit of a loner that needs help with social skills and they told me to invite more kids round from nursery to extend her circle of friends so she doesn't need to follow this one girl around.

I looked into Sensory issues myself after someone on this site suggested I look at a book called the Out of Sync child. I haven't seen the book but found out what it was about and did my own research on the net.

I mentioned yesterday to nursery that we were taking dd to be assessed for sensory issues and she just said OK well maybe that might be helpful then and walked away.

She has never said to me she thinks Erin has special needs, but if she is causing so much disruption then surely she has to consider it. I don't like it but if it helps my daughter so be it. I will do everything I can to help her fit in and feel more at ease. At this rate she is becoming the naughty difficult child in class and I can't stand it.

Thanks
bear
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[Fattymumma]

the nursary sound like a chocolate teapot!

its god that you are loking into alternative reasons for yo DD'd behaviour, there is clealry something wrong.

i would suggest asking who the nursary SENCO is as well, then speak to them about what they think the problems are. if your Dd has been as disruptive as they say then they must surely have spoken about it.

the nursary may be able to invite people to observe your DD and offewr them suggestions for dealing with her behaviour and heling her integrate better

[coppertop]

Poor dd.

I wonder what it is that the nursery is doing differently to the other places where dd goes/has gone. Is it less structured maybe? I find that in some places my 2 ds'es (who have sensory problems as part of their autism) can be little angels and in other settings they can go to pieces.

Has anyone mentioned portage to you? Ds2 who has a portage worker who visits us at home and she has had a lot of good ideas about ways to help us. She has also acted as a kind of go-between for us in the past. If you are interested you can find your local portage service by googling "portage" and your town/city and then contacting them directly.

[Jimjams2]

sorry- really short of time, but would highly recommend the book, the out of synch child. It's cheap but very helpful.