I've been through all of this once before with DS1, he was dx with ASD while attending an ms primary. This spectacularly failed and we had all of the usual hideousness that accompanies these situations with a nasty HT and useless LA. Eventually, we got DS1 into a lovely ss, where he has thrived.
Two years down the line, we are facing a dx for DS2 as well. He is not as HF as his brother, is very young for his age and has limited speech and understanding.
I don't want to go through all the ms bullshit again. I can't. The scars it has left on my family have been deep and lasting, and I have suffered awful PND after the birth of DS3 and i don't have the energy to do that fight again. I fear that DS2 would get lost in ms, he's a quiet little homebody where DS1 was brash and violent when he wasn't coping, which got us lots of attention. DS2 would curl in a ball under a table and be happily ignored.
I just want DS2 to go to the ss. Without a massive failure at ms, how does that work? Can I request it on his statement (or EHCP) when he gets one? Do I just apply like I would for a regular school? Can the LA say no, even with a dx and a parental request? Could they stick him in ms even though we don't want that?
He's starting a SN nursery in Sept, suppose I will find out more then, but it's hanging over me all the time and I'd just like to find out a bit about the process.
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AnnikaHansen · 23/06/2015 13:12
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