Seeing DK today - feel Un prepared

[2boysnamedR]

Mentally and physically.

I'm not ready for what I think I'm going to hear.

I don't think I gave her enough reports ( as I have hundreds so only picked out the last 20)

I want a final answer. I just don't have the strength to hear it. I have heard so much before that's been hard. Every new thing just seems to slam another door. Still I have too know. 5.5 years on the nhs asking the same question

[fairgame]

You've been through so much you deserve an answer.
It doesn't matter how prepared you are nobody is ever ready but knowing will allow you to move forward.
Good luck

[deadwitchproject]

Best of luck to you today 2boys

[bjkmummy]

deep breaths - it will be fine - she has such a lovely nature about her and you will be blown away by her and how much she picks up. thinking of you and hope it all goes well x

[chocnomorechoc]

Good luck. Hope it goes well!

[Babieseverywhere]

Good luck

[blankgaze]

Good Luck 2boys, she has a very good reputation

[fairgame]

Hope everything went well 2boys

[2boysnamedR]

He is in the Gray area outside of asd she thinks. He is very spikey and very complex

I think if added all the boys they have all the symptoms but ds2 is lacking he dislike of change and routine, repetitive behaviours.

So he's still a rather complex little mystery.

He's 7 so she said he's at the age where things normally go wrong with friendships so fx he doesn't find that.

He has significant problems and she painted a bleak future for school if the statement isn't tightened up. Let's hope the tribunal take her report in board. But then well no doubt be screwed over at transfer to EHC

[fairgame]

I'm sorry you didn't get a more definitive answer. Hopefully her report will help with his statementing and i'm sure the tribunal will take it on board, she is very well respected.

[2boysnamedR]

I should be happy I guess but I'm worried I will be asking the same questions when he's around secondary age. All the things that make him non asd are things that his asd brother doesn't do! ( but his "nt" brother does - who seems not so nt any more )

Hopefully it will make more sense when I read the report.

She said that lang disorders and ADD are the hardest things for school to spot and accept. Lucky him!

He was chewing his sleeves and called his school St Farts which was a genuine and hilarious mistake.

When she asked how being happy felt he said "Morley I smile" which he meant mostly, but he had no idea what she meant I don't think. I said he never points, then he pointed at the clock after 1.5 hours as he'd had enough! It was quite funny, he honestly never points, just shouts out look at that!!! And I have to guess what!

He's funny, that much I'm sure about

[deadwitchproject]

Sorry it wasn't as cut and dried as you hoped but as others have said, she is well respected so hopefully that will have a positive impact on your statement process.

St Farts

[adrianna22]

Did she do the ADOS polter?

[fairgame]

Some children go years without a diagnosis and some never get one, not because there is nothing wrong with them but because they don't meet a diagnostic criteria.
A private clinician will still have to use the same criteria as the nhs but they may be better at spotting subtle signs and symptoms that other clinicians might miss.

[2boysnamedR]

Oh sorry he does have a diagnosis. Dcd, language disorder, SPd ( but it's named as difficulties not disorder.

She said that although he's right up at the cut off of asd, she feels he falls just below criteria but she wants to talk to school before sayings it's not asd.

So she agreed his did finally got all of the above, we're not adding asd.

She will pull of his problems into a report which spells out how all this effects him.

Sorry I didn't make that clearer