DD 14 has ADHD and significant learning difficulties. She has "spikey" profile and there are areas of relative strength her spatial abilities for example. However her non-verbal and verbal abilities are off the centile in terms of difficulty as are her memory and other areas. She has made very minimal progress since secondary school and a few subjects have stayed the same since she was around 8-9.
Her behaviour has gradually deteriorated at school. They talk about her as if she is the most challenging individual they have ever come across and are continually at a loss as to "What to do with her". They are inconsistent and frankly tricky to work with. They do not respond to my emails, calls etc. Everything is very negative and as much as I will sound neurotic over protective mum she is not as awful as they insinuate. She is slightly immature so her "Challenging behaviour" is singing in class, makes some odd noises, and is a little scatty!! Admittedly she is quite/very oppositional when challenged but depends how she is challenged they tend to fight fire with fire which always ends in a shouty row between DD and staff hat neither will back down from. They think as does the ed phyc that DD has ASD. DD won't accept the diagnosis for this she is very sensitive about having any difficulties. They said teachers would accept her more if she was diagnosed as they just see her as "naughty" DD won't go plus CAMHS have said she doesn't meet all criteria.
Long Long Long story short in a recent meeting SENCO said "No way would DD get an EHCP , You only get them to go to a specialist provision, mainstream don't do them". I knew they were talking crap but called IPSEA for advice so I will go ahead anyhow. They are incredibly opposed to the idea and I have no idea why. They are the ones always saying "We have tried everything" (Which is a load of rubbish they haven't) and act as if working with her is impossible! Why would they be so anti EHCP?! Sadly schools are pretty limited in our area added to the fact DD has a secure network of friends where she is alongside it takes her a LONG time to settle !
Why would schools be opposed to an EHCP? I naively thought they'd welcome the suggestion.
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EHCP advice needed. School not supportive.
samantha3232 · 27/05/2015 20:08
We were stuck under the old system but have today been told we have won our tribunal to get our daughter a statement which may or may not be converted straight to and ehcp.
The senco at her schools (she moved to secondary during the process) was dead set against Dd3 getting a statement too and really can only think it is because they are forced by law to spend money on the provision for the child whereas on SEN support the budget isnt ring fenced and can be used for anything or any body!!
Do what you think is right for your Dd and if they refuse to assess her appeal! Everyone on here will help you and so will IPSEA.
Good luck 
I have been fed the line " Dd3 doesnt want someone sitting next to her" too.
As far as I am aware Dd3 has never been asked if she wants this or not! And anyway as I pointed out in tribunal Dd3 is a child, sometimes adukts have to make decisions for children based on their best interests nit whether they like something or not!! 
Keep chipping away!
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