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Any positive stories about intervention for aspergers?

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mistbecomingrain · 25/05/2015 22:07

I'm so depressed about DS having aspergers.

We have the diagnosis and now he's starring OT for his motor problems.

He is almost normal - just zones out at times - social skills are so good with certain adults - not so good with peers.

He is age 6. If we do everything possible to help him what is it possible to achieve?

I know it's a lifelong condition so he'll always have some issues.

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senvet · 26/05/2015 00:14

My relative was hiding under desks in class at mainstream school in Reception. By age 8 struggled to get into school and then bolted out and was found on the dual carriageway.

Loads of intervention later he is earning, married, and happy.

You would not know now that he was not mainsteam, although mainstream conversation, especially in a group, is harder work than it is for others, he can manage. It is like speaking a second lannguage.

Meanwhile, in silicon valley, the many scientists who have aspergers advise mainstream scientists to forget any dreams of a nobel prize as they cannot compete with their Asperger's counterparts.

Hope this helps

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FunnyHowThingsWorkOut · 26/05/2015 16:08

My son is 'almost normal' with ASD, SPD, and other minor issues'. He is very like his father and grandfather, both of whom have marriages and very successful careers.

They are so, so smart, so intelligent, so loyal, so driven by their work. They have a phenomenal work ethic.

I foresee great things for my son with the right support.

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PolterGoose · 26/05/2015 19:45

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amberlight · 26/05/2015 20:19

What's it possible to achieve? Our DS is autistic and with major sensory and executive functioning difficulties. Believing in him, and putting him through a brilliant local school means he was school Prefect, national level rugby player... got a degree in psychology & counselling, and 18 months as a member of teaching staff working with autism. Can't live independently. Doesn't need to. Doesn't know the alphabet. Can't remember more than one instruction. Can't carry out instructions without prompting repeatedly.
Amongst my autistic adult friends, I have many mums, dads, clergy, sculptors, artists, authors, teachers, trainers, surveyors, accountants, lawyers, etc etc. As well as all manner of other careers and trades. If we are given the right sensory and social 'load', we can learn and contribute. And quite often be a lot better than others. Faster, more accurate. Those who also have other conditions/differences such as intellectual disability or speech/language delay can have greater problems - because they are coping with multiple disabilities at once.
I'd agree with Poltergoose about the anxiety being disabling. With brains that take in too much info from our surroundings, they are often running on 'superhot' inside. If we don't balance the input well enough, zap... shutdown or meltdown. So no wonder we are anxious. And that's without bullying and scorn from some others.
Believe in your fine young person. Let them find their own safe way to make progress, with good help and guidance from others.

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Ineedmorepatience · 26/05/2015 20:37

Yay! Well said amberlight, I have nothing to add except embrace the difference.

Measure your child by his or her happiness and well being not by how "normal" you can make him or her!!

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senvet · 26/05/2015 23:26

amber I am copying that post - it is something I will enjoy returning to

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