Not wanting to rehash the Active Convo issue, but if anyone would like to comment now it's been re-arranged for a few weeks...

[hub2dee]

I've started a thread here .

Would be interested to hear if SN topic users felt current arrangement much better than before... and if that's just because 'funny season' seems to be over, or if it's better than it's not in the general 'Active Convos / All Topics' IYSWIM.

[macwoozy]

There's no hassle involved to click on the 'include special needs' or 'all topics' button, whichever you prefer. Even with my limited brain power I've noticed that my finger has now automatically gone to the right hand side after several attempts. Blu has made some really good points, but I also can feel why other MN's might feel that it's a private club type zone. I've never been cat'd[obviously] by a 'stranger' nor had any comments I've made about my ds been reiterated by a total stranger, I bet if I did I'd feel totally different. But, I do remember a a question that I asked regarding EP's a while ago, and yousrelf along with other 'NT' parents answered. Now I can't be bothered to check up on that' cos it's my birthday and I've drunk too many sherrys [sherries!] but my original thread was helped by the 'normal lot on the other side' EEEEEEEEEEEEEKKKKKKKKKK now I'll never be acccepted! So in my timid voice I'd like to say lets all join together again, so we can all benefit.

[hub2dee]

LOL @ macwoozy on the sherry. Agreed, Fio, it wasn't about NT parents... it seemed to be more about attitudes / tolerance / understanding.

[2Shoes]

i don't see the problem. surley people from the main board(only way i could think of describing it) can just click on with sn or save to favorites.
but at least by doing that they know it is sn and saves everyones feelings.

[macwoozy]

OMG I must have really overdone the old celebrations last night, I can't even rememeber writing this

[coppertop]

ROFL at MacWoozy and the sherry!

[Jimjams2]

I prefer it. If people feel like its a private club that's their problem really. Ican't beliueve that many regulars are that over sensitive. It's not. And those who have continued to post have been as welcomed as they ever were. I'm sure that the people who have always posted here would know that.

[tamum]

I have to admit I do keep forgetting to go to "include special needs" because I haven't updated my bookmarks, but that's my own stupid fault. And now that I see I am in a clique with fio I shall be here all the time I'm afraid

(how are you doing, Jimjams?)

[Twiglett]

I should like to claim clique membership too please

[tamum]

Ah, go on then. Only if Fio says yes though, mind, she's the clique-keeper

[Cappuccino]

I don't think people from the main boards do click on special needs

everyone seems to have made it very clear that they are not wanted and that they don't know what they are talking about

I think it's a shame that a few instances where things have gone a bit wrong have resulted in this splitting off of SN parenting from everyone else

[Cappuccino]

I mean if there was a 'with sleep' or 'with travel' button people wouldn't click on that either if they weren't particularly looking for those threads

but I've been on, and contributed, to many threads that I wouldn't have been looking for in a casual browse

[Flamesparrow]

I do feel like Capp says that us NT mums have been made to feel like we shouldn't be there (regardless of whether or not that was how it was meant)... I am stubborn though

[Jimjams2]

been meaning to email you tamum..... ds3 gave us a scare (but OK now!)

[Jimjams2]

would love to see an example of this:

"everyone seems to have made it very clear that they are not wanted and that they don't know what they are talking about"

Don't think anyone has ever said that at all.

[Blu]

"everyone seems to have made it very clear that they are not wanted and that they don't know what they are talking about"

I think people have a take-it-personally tendency to infer things where noting was implied.

I completely understand Cappuccino's pov about separation - and can see the alternative view too. Whatever happens in the end is going to be unsatifactory for someone - and in the meantime I feel quite sad that it keeps erupting into a row and the people at the heart are in danger of being mythologised as unreasonable or unpleasant or unwelcoming. When actually everyone is rather lovely. (insert favourite 'except', here! JOKING!)

[UniSarah]

I hadn't noticed... donno what that says about how i read the site
arh-m just worked out what it is, I read site by topic only, never have used active conversation thingy.

[eidsvold]

despite it not being in active convos we all managed to find our way here

[TeeCee]

I don't think I like it but then I don't think I really like Mumsnet as much right now anyway. Yes I've popped on tonight to check a thread someone emailed me about and couldn't resisit a peak at SN's.

I feel like I got some of the best support from parents of NT children and feel Sn's is a lonlier place now these days. I'm just not feeling it as much anymore. The main people who have picked me up off the floor when I've felt shit are all parents of NT children. So where do I post if I feel down again? On SN's and just hope they remember to click and see my post, or do I post a SN related worry / feeling whatever in 'other subjects', and then maybe get told off again for posting a Sn problem out of SN's?!

[coppertop]

TeeCee Post wherever you feel that you'd get the most support. Sod what anyone else thinks/says. xxx

[hub2dee]

just a hello to TeeCee.

[Blu]

Cappuccino - I had to have a little laugh a couple of weeks ago - you posted in 'Days Out Recommendations' looking for things to do with your dd, stating that they needed to be accessible - and the first two posts suggested ice-skating! Obviously the posters were being kind and helpful, and you may not have got any replies in SN (although I think many of us who posted about non-ice skating activities do regularly visit SN.) - but they were just innocently oblivious to the meaning of accessible! (although maybe I am making assumptions here!).
I'm not making a criticism of anyone, or a statement that anyone's input might not be welcome in relation to SN questions - just pointing out an example where innocent confusion arises!
I agree with TeeCee - my most 'wrought' thread about DS's leg drew some support from people whose children are 'leg typical' that I will remember for the rest of my life.
But they are all SN regulars, anyway, as caring interested people interested in all experiences of parenting, whether it is the same as theirs ort not.

[foxinsocks]

oh teecee, I would hope no-one would tell you off if you posted your concerns somewhere other than the SN board. And if they did, I imagine there would be a whole raft of people (like myself) who would come along to support you.