Sorry if I don't use abbreviations but I haven't posted on here before so am not familiar with the lingo. I would appreciate any advice regarding my 'just 5'son who is having problems at school. Since starting reception last September the teachers have been struggling to manage his behaviour, he doesn't do as he is told, can be aggressive to other children at times (although he does have friends) but is very bright. They brought in some help from the Pupil Referral Unit to advise them on strategies to manage his behaviour such as reward charts, marbles etc which seemed to help slightly. However in the last two weeks his behaviour has deteriorated to the point that the strategies are not working and he is very defiant and won't do as the teachers ask. We have also been told that if he hurts another child he will be excluded temporarily. At home he is completely different, he can be boisterous at times with his older sister but generally is a loving, caring, funny little boy. I can manage his behaviour at home with time outs, sanctions etc, There are some points that do concern me however which is he doesn't seem to cope well with loud noises, can be very impulsive, loud and shouting at times inappropriately, also he struggles with change and loves routine. Today the headteacher and the lady from PRU phoned me to say that they feel he needs further support and assessments. He has been referred to the educational psychologist and the school would like to apply for high needs funding for 1:1 support. When I spoke to the lady from PRU and asked whether I should seek a diagnosis (i know that is a controversial topic) she said it wouldn't do any harm to see the GP and ask for a referral to a Paediatrician. I really am at my wits end on what to do, I really don't want them to exclude him as I feel that he then knows exactly what to do when he wants to go home, also I don't want him to lose the friends that he has. However, I know it is completely not acceptable for him to be aggressive towards other children.
If this situation sounds familiar please let me know as at the moment I feel overwhelmed and unsure what I can do to help him school. I am writing this in tears (would insert sad face smiley but am not sure how!)
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