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DS just isn't coping at all. Please help!

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ShabbaLabbaDing · 24/04/2015 23:04

DS (7) is currently under assessment for ASD (aspergers).

He has all of the common symptoms that you would find in children with ASD. I have found the symptoms to be getting worse as each month/year passes.

Our biggest battle at the moment is school. DS just doesn't cope well at school. It's becoming more and more common for DS to have break downs right before leaving the house. No tantrums, just tears after tears and refusing to move. He appears completely heartbroken if anything. I finally manage to get him into school. DS has a fantastic teaching assistant that has been with DS since year 1 (DS is currently in Y2). He relies on her for emotional support and for the times he suffers with anxiety/panic attacks. It also helps that DS teacher is the SENCO.

At the end of June, we move 4 hours away. We are a military family so DS has experienced moves before, but never while in full time school. I am dreading it. First of all, DS struggles to get through the average day at school. It is a great struggle for him. Secondly, DS teaching assistant will no longer be with him, which I truly worry will affect him a lot. We haven't got the choice of staying here and even if we did, it would make a difference anyway because DS will be leaving his current school in July as it is an infants school and DS will be going to a Jnr school.

I need as much advice as I can get. How do I make this as easy as possible for DS? At the moment, DS struggles to drop to sleep until 45 mins -1 hour after I put him into bed due to constant thinking and worrying. I just feel I need some advice. I am worried sick and feel lost! Please help!!

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ShabbaLabbaDing · 24/04/2015 23:06

wouldn't * make a difference.

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senvet · 24/04/2015 23:23

Wow poor dc.
Have you looked at special schools or units at all? Even if they are not a match, they may give you ideas that might work at home and in a future school.

I have great faith parents' instincts and gut reactions, so if you look around, you will get your eye in. Obviously what you will need is one in the new area, but if you get your eye in where you are living now, you will get an idea of whether, and maybe how,mainstream can be workable.

My relative got into bolting out of mainstream, as well as struggling to get into the building or classroom.

Special was the answer for him, but every child is individual so you will know what your dc.

I think dc is telling you that school is stressful right now, so anything that school can do to identify and reduce the stressors are worth looking at with the school.

I am feeling a long way from the right person to answer, but hope this helps

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PolterGoose · 25/04/2015 08:20

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bitbap18 · 25/04/2015 10:09

Can you make up some social stories or pictures of what is happening, what will be happening and what you know already? I have a DD the same age, and we are moving in June. We've known since October it would be happening, and kept it from her until earlier this year. We are probably only moving next door but it still creates a lot of stress.

For me, key would be getting this set up as soon as you can. Getting sorted for where you are moving to, what school he will go to, support in place etc. then you can consider introducing him into it all, so that he doesn't have to worry about the unknown. We made it very clear that if she had any questions or worries, she was to tell us and we would do what we could to help.

I don't think it will be easy, sadly, but anything you can do to reduce his, and in turn your anxieties will be beneficial. Good luck!

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