Hi everyone, this is my first post in sn, I normally post in secondary education as I went through an appeal last year which was unsuccessful.
Ds has a diagnosis of ASD, he's above average at school but struggles socially and has severe anxiety. This week he was also diagnosed with IBS.
I was advised to pull a recent thread as I apparently disclosed to much information ( by another mumsnetter ) but I was trying not to drip feed!
We lost appeal to a mixed sex, Catholic school, excellent pastoral care and ds started at our second choice school last September.
This school "requires improvement", has a pretty bad reputation but has ASD support/unit, should he need it, which is why we picked it.
It's a considerable distance away and ds gets 2 buses each way, we practised lots.
Ds started panicking over travelling around October, the buses are unreliable and the area where the school is situated is mad busy, near a motorway and the main road into the city.
He also started to change and was saying he felt unwell all the time, usually on Wednesday. I asked if anything was wrong at school, he said no.
I went to see head of year, voiced my concerns eric.
Last week I received a call from another mum, friend of ds, he told his mum they're both being bullied and its been going on since around October.
Went to see head of year, her solution is to isolate ds at lunchtime as this is mainly when the bullying is happening, there are 5/6 boys involved.
Also, one of them took pictures of ds during lessons and put them on social media with horrendous insults such as fat c**t. I was shocked that the school haven't addressed any of this.
I told them I want to move him, apply for appeal school again which is full but Will be the best school for ds for a number of reasons, mainly the Catholic element which he's so used to but also the pastoral support and proximity.
Ds is a bag of nerves, me too. The school have offered to support our in year transfer request. I went to see our parish priest who knows ds very well and he wrote a letter of support.
I am fully expecting a "no" from other school which will then give us the chance to appeal.
Any ideas how I can maximise our chances? He's recently been referred to CAHMS and is under ASD doctor who we see every 6 months.
I feel cruel sending him to school when I don't believe he's being supported and his friend was being bullied by a separate group, are the school masking the obvious bullying issue by trying to help us move?
So sorry it's long. I'm really struggling with anxiety/depression myself and this is taking its toll. Thanks for reading.
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foreverton · 25/03/2015 10:15
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