What were your Asperger toddlers like?

[RabbitsGoMoo]

I have seen a few posts where people say certain behaviours that sound VERY like my DS

Just wondering what people saw at this age

I don't think it particularly hinders him but it might help make for less stressful parenting if I understood him a bit better if he does have it. Nursery haven't said anything so maybe I'm barking up the wrong tree but be grateful for some insight

[RabbitsGoMoo]

Thanks

The saying you instead of I thing he does though has started saying "it's mine" in the past week or so

He has major tantrums that can happen out of the blue just by waking up into one from nap time, but I have noticed things like when I went to walk out of the back door to sainsburys car park and realised and turned round to go to the front door sent him into one. If I suddenly change a plan or direction I'm walking in he can throw one

He doesn't need to say bye at nursery and wouldn't notice if I left without saying it - equally he's never pleased to be collected and his teachers have to persuade him it's finished for the day to get him to leave even if all the other kids have already gone

He doesn't like messy play. I had to practice with a sand pit before he coped with the beach or sea, has only played with his food a few times in his life and asked for his hands to be wiped soon after

Speech is brilliant, but is often referred to as a "little old man" due to it by amused onlookers

Obsessed with trains, will repeat the same story over and over if it has a train in it, tells the story over regardless of how many times I acknowledge it or try to move the subject on

Quickly learns his stories off by heart - people keep saying he'll be an early reader but I believe he is just amazing at memory.

Can play for literally hours happily by himself or sit and read a book quietly

But...

Very good eye contact (if he wants to)
Very sociable and a bit of a mother hen - though I often find myself laughing as he does this in a way that mimicks other people? Eg he will tell me to "do it gently" when brushing his teeth before I start, or "use cold water and wait your turn" before we wash his hands

He does do imitation play - makes me food in his toy kitchen and reads his bear stories

He passed his 2 yr check no issues but I did notice when they asked him the mirror question of who's in that mirror and the mirrors were backed into foam shapes he wouldn't say anyone was in the mirror but rolled his eyes like she was an idiot and told her it was a "butterfly or sun" etc whatever the shape was.