Help DS is due to have a brace fitted

[fairgame]

He is having a removable brace fitted later in the week to help push a one of his front top teeth forward. I've paid privately for this as NHS waiting list for it is a year.
DS has today decided that he is not having a brace.
We've talked about it and i've done a social story (which he has screwed up) but he is adamant that it isn't happening. School have also talked to him about it but he just gets angry.
I'm just about to resort to Lego bribery but before i bankrupt myself in toysrus does anyone have any ideas or tips to help him at least give them a try?
They have cost me a non refundable £450

[bjkmummy]

my 13 year old asd son has had his fitted today - they are already not in his mouth and we will give it another go at the weekend - he has got them through the NHS as we see a SEN dentist. hes finding it hard but im realistic that it may/may not work - we will try again at the weekend - hes finding it hard to talk and just uncomfortable. I too have done the social story etc but im not sure how far we will get - I know im not much help am I!!!!

and to make my stress worse his younger brother has decided that the braces on his brother is freaking him out and is insisting his brother doesn't wear them!!! bet you can guess which child that is!!

[fairgame]

DS is the same bjk, he hates the look of teeth and braces. I was showing him pictures online and it just freaked him out. That will be fun at school if DS does decide to wear them and show your DS!

Thanks Polter. I thought i was the only one that bribed DS with Lego for nearly everything but it makes me feel better that i'm not. God i'm having such a shit time with everything at the moment i just need him to comply just for once!!

This brace is going to be a very expensive ornament on DS's bedside table at this rate.

[fairgame]

I was thinking initially of going straight to toysrus after the dentist to try and prevent an epic meltdown while he's in the chair. He nearly kicked off last time so this time he's likely to blow. Then maybe letting him move up 2 steps on his reward chart for every day he wears it (1step for day and 1 step for night).
We live 3 miles away from toysrus so it's very accessible as a bribery method. Sometimes I feel like such a crap parent as they always say not to bribe kids but I don't see any other way. He needs the brace and lego is the one thing he responds to.

[maggiso]

I don't know how you get Dc to wear a removable brace - we have that ahead of us, as Ds fixed brace is soon to be changed to a retainer. We were lucky in that ds likes shiny things and he admired other childrens braces (!) but his sensory side of his autism made having a brace a big challenge (he only has one - we never got the upper brace because ds refused to have teeth removed - the only way to fix his upper teeth). I have always rewarded him for behaving well at the orthodontist - he needs a list of what I expect as good behaviour, just to be clear (Stay calm, no biting, no shouting, be nice, open his mouth when asked, smile (to relax him and appear polite) . Expectations have increased as he has got used to the visits. We go to the toy shop afterwards to choose an item, and I usually have a pack of trading cards available just in case we are too late for the toy shop (learnt that the hard way!) . Ds has no internal means for motivation and cannot envisage long term gain ( such as nicer teeth in x years) so needs a bit of motivation. Don't think of rewards as bribes but external motivation - or learning bout motivation .
The first week was difficult for him as it does feel unpleasant. The orthodontist was aware of his sensory needs so put things in place without much functional tightness to start, so he could adapt to the brace without ache. Its also hard to talk and eat ( although perhaps a removable brace comes out for food), so we had to have soft foods at first. We had to skip the twin block ( uncomfortable removable brace type of thing) because we knew ds would not wear it ( he has LD as well as ASD). Teeth cleaning is very important with a fixed brace I don't know about removeable ones - so we had to set up a system to earn 10ps (shiny money) to buy cards. I guess more able children may want bigger rewards.
Good luck.