I am feeling more and more depressed, like my family is falling apart, and so far removed from being the one I envisaged.
Ds1 (10) has an asd diagnosis but he is not typical asd, no problems with change etc, no routines he has to stick to. Obviously problems with social and huge problems with organisation. He talks all the time which if I'm honest grinds us all down. He's addicted to mine craft, I limit his time, but he doesn't know what to do with himself without it. He has no other hobbies apart from TV, or jumping around playing games in his head.
School applied for ehcp for transition to secondary school. We have just found out he didn't get it. His social vulnerability us being pointed out more and more. I so worry for him at secondary school come September.
Dd is NT. There are always lots of arguments between her and Ds1. Ds1 is a kind, loving beautiful soul, but he can hit out and drives dd mad with excessive talking. Dd doesn't help by being very much in his face. She wants him to be her playmate in short.
Ds2 is 17 months. No diagnosis but I know he has Asd. I just know. Hits all the red flags. Started babbling at 13 months, still just a few sounds, no pointing, very little understanding. His play consists of running about emptying cupboards.
He wasn't a planned baby. I was on antidepressants and quite high levels of benzodiazepines when I fell pregnant. I stopped them as soon as I found out I was pregnant but had quite bad withdrawal effects for a month. I know antidepressants stay in your system for about 8 weeks. It is absolutely eating me up that the medication has affected the baby's brain and caused/contributed to the asd.
I have generalised anxiety disorder myself. I can't get away from worrying.
I want to go back on antidepressants now, but am still breastfeeding ds2. He demands it, I won't take tablets whilst still breastfeeding him, but I don't know how to get him off the breast, he has never taken a bottle. I NEED to be on antidepressants though, they helped me in the past.
Any advice care this?
Dh says I am writing ds2 off by saying he has asd. I am not. I know the earlier a diagnosis the better. But I know dh won't acknowledge there is a problem till told so by a professional. I feel like I am going to have a year of feeling devastated on my own.
Ds2 was seen by a paediatrician at 13 months, when he had just started saying ga, ga, ga. (No other sounds). She was lovely and said he was still within normal development. I don't think that is the case now.
The future feels incredibly bleak. My daughter will never have the playmate she wants. I feel full of absolute guilt. My kids argue all the time, and I feel I am not helping them as I seem to go on and on to them about not doing this, not doing that etc. my daughter told me yesterday I am always arguing. My son has told me I won't let a point go.
I often think that it would be easier to not be here. But I wouldn't do that to my family.
Dh is positive, enjoys life, I feel incredibly worried about the future. Ds1 has been relatively easy, but I know from mn how difficult an asd child can be and I don't know what our future holds.
Am I ever going to feel better, am I ever going to enjoy my children again?
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