DD is seven.
Although she has no DX (because we can't get her assessed because we can't get past the triage rotweilers at cahms because she doesn't present at school...) I am pretty certain she has PDA.
Getting out of the house to school has been a nightmare from day one. Once at school she presents well to her teachers.
Getting her to school was one of the factors in my inability to do my job properly because of the mind blowing stress and distress I felt.
We thought it was because of the hustle of getting out of the door so we had high hopes when I stopped working and they changed schools. The start of the day is much more relaxed and for a while all was well. However, since half term, it has all gone to hell in a hand cart.
She gets up perfectly happy. She gets dressed perfectly happily. She talks about what she is going to do at school today.
Then it is time to clean her teeth and put on shoes and socks and it all goes horribly wrong. It doesn't matter how I phrase it or mix up the routine. She finds something to be stressed about. I KNOW it is all to do with the change from home to school and not because her plait is 'wrong' or her shoes are 'stupid'..
She then wails most of the way to school no matter how we travel which then stresses DS who is HFA...
As soon as we cross the threshold of school and she's had a cuddle she goes in happily and I come home a wreck and collapse with -gin- a cup of tea.
School are at a loss. She's fine once she's there. Everything she gives as a reason has been sorted.
I don't know what else to do.
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Aaarrrghhh DD and getting out of the door for school...
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neverputasockinatoaster · 19/11/2014 14:17
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