After years of being told at primary school that my DS needs to work harder, needs to concentrate more, needs to learn his times tables, needs to spell better.............. and after endless meetings with class teachers over the years, national test results pointing quite obviously to a learning difficulty, a completely useless senco (who lost referral forms to EP amongst other things); 2 years of anxiety, loss of self esteem and feelings of inadequacy, my son is now in year 7 in a mainstream comprehensive. I met with the senco there last night, who told me that there is obviously a problem (reading age matching actual age, but spelling at 4 years younger amongst other things), that tests will be carried out over the coming months and that in the meantime he will be placed in a special needs class where he will get the extra support he needs.
I can't even begin to tell you how relieved I am that at last his learning needs are being identified after being made to feel by the primary school that I was an absolutely crap mother because he couldn't spell etc. His year 6 teacher told me that it is the parent's responsibility to ensure that their children can spell and do times tables etc. Talk about passing the buck.
What I want to know though is am I unusual in feeling this way? When DS was very small, I had the usual dreams for him that he would fly through school, achieving well in everything (I don't mean top of the class, but just not having any major problems), but now I feel almost perversely pleased that the school have recognised there's a problem. At the same time, I want to cry over the fact that DS is always going to find school work hard.
Does anyone else feel this way?
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Does anyone else feel relieved that their child(ren) has been put in special needs in mainstream comp?
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oen1 · 24/10/2014 14:04
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