birthday party made me feel so sad.

[iloveithere]

DS had his first ever birthday party planned. He struggles with lots of people and noise, so we only invited 8 kids from his class. 2 told me straight away that they couldn't come, fair enough. Two called up 30 mins before to say their children were too ill to come. Two didn't show up. So only 2 turned up. Some of my friends were there with their kids, so the party went ok. But I feel really sad. I don't know if the excuses were real, or I the parents don't want their kids mixing with my ds. Or if the kids themself didn't want to come. He does have behaviour issues, but I thought the parents would have given him a chance, even if it meant they stayed to keep an eye on their children
I feel so sad and trying not to cry.

[Jasonandyawegunorts]

please don't cry, the excuses might have been real, and they did warn you it would have been worse if they left you standing.

Try and see the good in it, you have 2 friends for him in the making and he might not have been able to handle a party with 8 + people, it could have been a disaster and too overwhelming for him.

Did he enjoy it, i hope he liked it, that's all that really matters?

[troutsprout]

Aww..... I'm sorry

[Icantfindaname]

This may be nothing to do with his SN you know?
Most people are really flaky and with birthday invites just ignore them. No one RSVP's. I think everyone thinks they are just one and leaves it to everyone else!

DD invited about 6 classmates to her party and 2 came. No one who didn't come RSVP'd to tell me.

People are just weird.

Did he enjoy his birthday?

[iloveithere]

Yes he had a great time, and is now flaked out on my lap watching tv, very tired and full of chocolate!

[Icantfindaname]

That's great :)

I hope you feel less sad tomorrow.

[iloveithere]

I know it might not be to do with sn, I'm just upset. I had checked on Thursday if they were all coming, they all said yes. He is happy, so I should be, I know.

[babyinarms]

So sorry to hear that. The excuses may have been genuine but I know how u must be feeling. My DS Ffirst party .....we had no diagnosis and he was 5....the friends turned up but no one played with him! He was crying and upset afterwards which nearly killed me!
From then on we have 2 or 3 friends of his choice...always the same....he'll be ten this year and it works out so much better.
He has his friends so thats fantastic...just keep it to them.
So sorry again....

[iloveithere]

Thanks babyinarms, I think I'm ok now, we will stick to days out for his birthday from now on, just like in previous years.

[Jasonandyawegunorts]

[tabulahrasa]

On my DS's 8th birthday I invited his whole class...2 came, it upset me for years, he was perfectly happy with his 2 classmates and some close friends and family members in a hall with a bouncy castle that wasn't overcrowded, lol.

It's heartbreaking eh?

[Icantfindaname]

I was meaning to sound unsympathetic - sorry.

[iloveithere]

Oh tabulahrasa, that is so sad.

[tabulahrasa]

I was so upset over it, he was happy as Larry, lol

At the time I was honestly just devastated, he should be having a big birthday party like other children, all that sort of thing you know? Now (he's 18) I think, ach, he was happy, stuff it, what does it matter?

He's done better socially as he got older anyway, I mean not that he suddenly got popular at school or anything, but he found a wee peer group and it's nice.

[Jasonandyawegunorts]

I've never had a birthday part with people from school, only invited someone over once and was NEVER invited to a birthday party.
I can honestly say it was something that just didn't bother me in the slightest, Some people are just happier without socialising.
But i can fully understand why it would be upsetting to you,, as most people would equate it with loneliness.

[babyinarms]

Glad u feeling a bit better. Have a nice or bettet still a glass of .
Look after yourself and your DS is lucky to have u in his corner

[iloveithere]

Having the now, got waiting for when (if) he finally sleeps.

[babyinarms]

Here's hoping

[Jacksterbear]

(((Hugs))) ilove, that would have really upset me too.

How is the sleeping going these days?

[iloveithere]

Not great, jackster, I've got another thread about that tonight, too the sleep clinic was useless. Still awake right now, but quietly playing, so I'm leaving him to it. But still sitting outside his room, worried if I move he will kick off. How about you?

[Jacksterbear]

Bad . Will have a look for your other thread.

[Viviennemary]

If he has had a great time then that's the main thing. But I don't blame you for being annoyed with those no shows and excuse makers. It's cheeky.