Just interested to know how other people's DC 'present' when out and about/at school and how it differs from at home?
had our multidisciplinary assessment today and the pediatrician completely dismissed my concerns regarding sensory issues and seemed completely unconvinced that DS could be on the autistic spectrum because he appears to hold it together so well at nursery/in public but totally lets rip at home
she said that usually DC with ASDs are "fine in their home environment but struggle with things they find unfamiliar/stressful" - my point is I feel DS IS this way but only feels comfortable enough to 'let go' at home or specifically with me/DH...He's like a bomb waiting to explode whenever we return from anywhere and his behaviour is completely different.
I know I'm probably just feeling a little flat (my big fear was he'd act so NT whilst there that they'd think I was paranoid) but I feel like she already made her mind up he was 'fine' before we even walked through the door. ..she wouldn't even discuss my concerns about SPD as she said most children 'tick all the boxes of lists you find on the Internet' and have a 'dislike of loud noises' (I did try to tell her it's much more than that)
so it's looking like their report will just make it look like I'm a paranoid/crap mum although she is referring us to a specialised HV in the hope that she will somehow 'see what we see' (unless she becomes VERY familiar I can't imagine she will - he'll just wait until she leaves) - and I'm now worrying about the DLA etc we've just been awarded, if the professionals don't believe what we're telling them about him will it be affected? I'm so proud of my boy who worked so hard today to get everything right, but I feel like crying because it feels like nobody really believes what we go through each day to help him cope, the DLA being awarded felt like the first step in having recognition that he needs more support than the average 3.5 year old, but now I'm worried we've reached the end of the road with hope for diagnosis. ..should I start looking into going private or just wait do you think?
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NiceCupOfTeaAndASitDown · 28/08/2014 19:48
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