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Do I take dd2 to my mums wedding?

(30 Posts)
autumnsmum Tue 18-Mar-14 07:40:46

Morning everyone ! I have a dilemma I want some honest mnsn advice on please , no one in rl is likely to give me an honest answer . My mum is remarrying in August which I am really happy about . Dp has depression and agoraphobia so he can't come . I will have to manage dd1 , ds who has high functioning autism
And high anxiety and dd2 who is autistic and although she will be almost 5. Functions at the level of a 2 year old . I am very worried she will become distressed as she is terrified of strangers and strange places . Social stories would be hopeless as she doesn't understand them do I bring her or leave her with dp ? I will be really sad not to bring her but would it be the best thing. ? Honest opinions pls thanks in advance

Flappingandflying Thu 20-Mar-14 17:32:52

I think you deserve to enjoy your mum's wedding without being on tenterhooks. Personally, I'd leave any small child behind because small children and weddings just don't mix very well and I think you should look at it as some respite for yourself.

MariaNotChristmas Thu 20-Mar-14 18:00:42

Given the choice, who wouldn't leave their dc3 behind?

A (small) child (who clearly hates weddings) staying at home having a nice time with daddy? Or the alternative scenario of being single handed....

Scratchy clothes, new place, noise, overtired, the wrong food, no screens available when you need them, all 3 simultaneously melting down, brand-new and possibly judgy-pants inlaws staring and your mum having a bridezilla moment <shudders>

autumnsmum Thu 20-Mar-14 19:34:53

Maria that's brilliant ! My mum will totally be a bridezilla

babiki Fri 21-Mar-14 06:54:32

We travelled to my sister's wedding last summer and I left ds with my friend's mum, he had a lovely time. He would not enjoy wedding at all, when I imagined him throwing plates around and taking tablecloths off - it would never work.

mary21 Fri 21-Mar-14 15:16:26

Do you get direct payments? Another option would be to hire someone to entertain her/look after. So she can be there for only as much as she can handle.
It's moments like these that rub it in that our children are different.
Do what helps you enjoy the day

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