Three years ago, Autism Outreach told me that because of my son's problems with emotional literacy he'd never manage more than a D for English Language. So much of the work is analytical, or creative, and he'd wouldn't be able to get it. She explained, "None of the autistic kids ever get more than a D for English" 
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We were already home educating by then, as ds had been failed by two schools and we'd given up on any support. I had no idea how to tackle his problems with English and emotions, and I'd tried plenty. Then I found an amazing tutor, a wonderful girl who was (still is!) studying English and Linguistics at university. She has worked steadily with ds for the last three years, and taught him so much. His use of language has developed into a mature writing style, and yes he's even learned how to analyse literature texts. He will even write (under duress!) about himself - something he's always found extremely difficult.
In January he sat IGCSE English exams and this morning he got his results. He has actually passed with an A*, something I'd never thought possible. I am enormously proud of what he's achieved and have wept buckets since the email came 
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So yes, I'm boasting, but I also hope this can inspire some of you to be open minded about your children's abilities and not be fobbed off by those professionals who have no ambition for them, and won't have the resources or intent to support them towards high achievement. Our children are amazing and full of promise, and with the right people behind them they can soar.
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A big boast and (hopefully) inspiration
streakybacon · 06/03/2014 09:48
Wow that's amazing 
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Well done DS his hard work has definitely paid off. Well done you too for not accepting the prediction and not giving up!
What a brilliant and inspirational story to read.
Thanks for sharing, that is a very inspirational story and congratulations to you and your DS
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Thank you all .
You're absolutely right ouryve, and it also shows how little effort goes into our children, and how that low attainment is accepted as the norm. If Autism Outreach are advising schools that their pupils with HFA aren't likely to get higher than D grades, the schools aren't likely to push higher, are they? And so the cycle goes - all those poor children, being wilfully failed .
This has been such a journey for ds as the subject was so difficult and personal for him. It hasn't been just another subject for him, but a period of personal growth - learning about people, motives, feelings ... all those things that are analysed in literature texts. He has developed so much since working with this magnificent young woman. She leaves us in the summer (she's still teaching him History till the exams) and she'll be such a miss.
Ds says thank you for your comments. He's literally bouncing with excitement today (and has had a nosebleed as a result 
) so I can't see us getting much work done today!
I use a website called University Tutor to find student tutors locally. We're lucky to have a good Russell Group uni nearby and that definitely helps. Actually the first tutor we had was our current one's sister, but she was close to graduating so we only had her for a few months. The current tutor was just finishing her A levels and planning on the same university, so we met and chatted and took it from there.
If you have a university close to you it's a great way of finding young people looking for experience at very reasonable rates. I've found them to be keen to work to my spec and 'outside the box' because they aren't dyed in the wool NC teachers with a single minded approach to education - we talk regularly about ds's needs, what he finds difficult, and together we find workarounds to support him. I am very involved in his learning and we're very much a team.
I now have a third member of the family working with us, teaching Computer Studies and Business Studies. He is only 19 but he's amazing .
How absolutely brilliant!! Massive, massive well done to ds, to you, and to the tutor. She and her siblings sound like a very special family. You're so right, it's sometimes just a case of finding the right teaching method to unlock the potential. Something which schools and other 'services' (ha) on the whole don't can't be arsed to do.
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I intend to do that, bochead. Unfortunately the AO woman I dealt with retired so she's no longer in the department, but you're right, people in the SEN support team do need to raise their aspirations for our children or they are doomed to failure, through no fault of their own.
Btw, ds has read this thread and says thank you to all for your congratulations. He hasn't stopped grinning all day .
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