Dd is in reception. Happy, learning well, loves school. No issues with her behaviour, she's very motivated and we'll behaved.
However she does struggle with the social side of things. It has taken her a while to make friends, but I feel that she's made a lot of progress with this since last term. She does have a few friends now, and plays imaginative and cooperative games with them when she sees them outside school. I think she does play and do activities on her own quite a bit at school though.
She isn't at all bothered by routines, Doesn't have tantrums, points at things, uses facial and verbal expression appropriately etc. She does have a few topics she is interested in, but not obsessively, and dislikes very loud hand dryers but fine with other loud noises. Eats and sleeps well.
She is very bright and has advanced language skills. Her teacher has said that her language goes over the heads of many of the other children and she wants to play games about things the other kids don't understand yet.
I acknowledge that she needs some support to help to build relationships with the children who will have most in common with her, but her teacher is trying to push me to take her to the gp. She has also said things like dd avoids eye contact, which I absolutely disagree with - I've been taking careful note since she mentioned it and I can see see no evidence of it at all. Obviously she's thinking ASD.
I feel angry and upset that dd could be put into a box and labelled, rather than have her very minor quirks accepted as part of who she is, and support given where needed. Why do all children have to be the same? Why is any kind of difference labelled as a disorder?
I should say that dd is exactly how I was as a child - I didn't relate much to other kids - but I am a happy, sociable adult with loads of friends and a job involving a high level of tact, diplomacy and social skills. And I feel sure that dd will be fine with a bit of understanding. I just don't think a label will help.
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Shantishanti · 18/02/2014 14:39
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