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If you're on FB do you address it when people post anti SN nonsense?

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Sparklysilversequins · 21/01/2014 08:37

You know that "in my day we didn't have behavioural disorders just little brats!" kind of nonsense.

It really bothers me, have two dc with ASD. Someone posted it again this morning, I get so tired of seeing it. I suppose it weeds out the ignorant knobs but I feel like I HAVE to say something to defend my dc and others like them. Do you? Or do you just block?

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PolterGoose · 21/01/2014 08:55

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babiki · 21/01/2014 10:26

I have only very good friends or students from OU on FB - none of them would be so stupid. If anybody was, I would delete them.

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BallyGoBackwards · 21/01/2014 10:54

I have never come across this at all. If I did then they would no longer be friends with me and I wouldnt have to see there posts.

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bluebirdonmyshoulder · 21/01/2014 11:01

Have also never come across this. I don't think any of my friends would post such crap.

If they did then they'd be deleted from my life, never mind FB.

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SallyBear · 21/01/2014 12:24

None of my FB friends would ever do that.

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theDudesmummy · 21/01/2014 13:37

Agree with what everyone has said, would not speak to such people again, whether on FB or in RL.

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Sparklysilversequins · 21/01/2014 13:38

It's happened three times and I just immediately block the person but I wanted to say something and tell them how ignorant and unpleasant they were.

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theDudesmummy · 21/01/2014 13:43

I suppose whether I bothered to give them feedback prior to blocking them would depend on the individual person, whether I think they are likely to give some thought to my feedback and maybe change. If I thought not then I would not bother.

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bialystockandbloom · 21/01/2014 14:20

I'd be tempted to suggest that with such wisdom and insight they should offer their services to train all the developmental psychologists, behavioural specialists, paediatricians, educational psychologists, s&l therapists, autism advisory services and the thousands of other professionals who diagnose and support children every day Wink

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SilverApples · 21/01/2014 14:44

I would, but it doesn't happen. Quite the opposite in fact.
I'm very fussy about who I have as FB friends though.

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PleaseNoMoreMinecraft · 21/01/2014 23:39

Not everyone on FB knows my kids are on the spectrum, so I wouldn't challenge them but would consider blocking them.

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Perchkin · 22/01/2014 08:25

I've never come across this type of post. I don't believe any of my FB friends would post anything like this. However, if any of them did I would certainly have something to say about it! And I would have to consider how well I really knew them......

I should also add that very few of my FB friends (maybe 2?) know that my DS is on the spectrum. And I still would not expect to see this sort of post from them.

But then I only actually have "friends" as my FB friends. No acquaintances or random strangers.

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Perchkin · 22/01/2014 08:30

Mind you, there is something in that quote you posted OP. It is quite true that kids were not diagnosed with ASD or whatever years ago, and they were just considered to be badly behaved/badly brought up ("brats"). It was only the profoundly autistic DC who did not speak or engage with the world around them at all, who were diagnosed as autistic.
It's good that things have moved on and a whole range of disorders are now recognised and that our DC do get some help (albeit that we have to fight tooth and nail for it sometimes).

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SilverApples · 22/01/2014 08:44

A number of friends on my FB have children on the spectrum, we used to belong to a forum that closed and moved to FB to keep contact.

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streakybacon · 22/01/2014 08:47

I've only ever seen a couple of instances of this type of thing and they've both been genuine misunderstandings about autism, which I've responded to appropriately to set things straight.

To be honest, I get more irked by people reposting disability support type messages, highlighting how difficult life is for children with autism etc, when I know it's come from someone who has no concept of what that means in real life and even at times from people who've been pretty unkind to my son and others with autism. I have to sit on my hands when those ones come through.

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elliejjtiny · 23/01/2014 16:49

I've had 2 friends post on facebook about people with blue badges parking in P and C spaces. Both times I replied saying that actually P and C spaces are a courtesy and blue badge holders can park in them too. One time I was ignored and the 2nd time someone I didn't know who was a blue badge holder backed me up.

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TraceyErica1977 · 23/01/2014 17:00

I'd quickly inform them of their utter ignorance, tell them to do some research before sharing their uninformed opinion with the world and then remove them. I don't think you should ever have to feel the need to defend your dc or justify why they are the way they are to ignorant people. It's clearly their problem, not yours or your dc.

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uggerthebugger · 23/01/2014 17:05

What streaky said. To the letter.

I haven't had to block anyone on FB for bigotry, but dear God, the number of shallow passive-aggressive compassion athletes who repost shit like "SPECAL NEEDS KIDS ARE SPECAL LIKE EVERYONE ELSE THEY JUST NEED A HUG SHARE THIS OR I HOPE U GET CANCER"....

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autumnsmum · 23/01/2014 18:29

Streaky totally agree

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