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Pathetic comments thread

(73 Posts)
goldenretriever Sun 08-Sep-13 17:50:07

Have had 2 interesting comments from work colleagues about my son with ASD recently which I wanted to share. Firstly, 'That's like Down's Syndrome, isn't it?' Secondly, 'They are more loving when they're like that.' Not to take away from my OH's Mother who bought him a rain coat and helpfully told me she had bought him a dark blue one 'rather than a red one so he didn't stand out, with him being the way he is' FFS. Anyone for anymore?!

MovingForward0719 Sun 08-Sep-13 18:19:50

Yep my son was being noisy in my mums garden yesterday and she said she thinks the house over the road isn't selling cos people view it when he's round. She was joking. Ha ha fucking hilarious mother,

greener2 Mon 09-Sep-13 20:02:16

Stopped in a hotel sat due to a wedding and dd screamed and wouldn't go to sleep quite a meltdown and was embarrassed - mum "im glad I wasn't in the room next to you"

No sh*t mum I didn't think about that at all!!! That's why we don't stay away!

claw2 Tue 10-Sep-13 09:13:37

'once he sees all the other children doing it' in response to ds's difficulties, such as being able to eat. hmm so years worth of therapy with experts and everything I have done wasn't enough, all I have to do is put him in a room full of children eating and problem will be sorted!

'Don't worry he will grow out of it'

My personally favourite at the moment, rather than providing help for long term difficulties 'lets wait and see' hmm yep 'waiting and seeing' always works well!

silasramsbottom Tue 10-Sep-13 09:50:10

My Aunt says my DS is "just a bit quirky, there's nothing "really" wrong with him, he'll grow out of it". And my personal favourite "they have to have labels for everything these days".

JJXM Tue 10-Sep-13 09:56:24

'But he seems such a happy little boy'

Yes, because he is totally unaware of social situations and so he just laughs to himself as a stim.

RippingYarns Tue 10-Sep-13 09:59:19

So, we've tested DD for dyslexia and she's fine.

In fact the results of her test contradict the sensory profile.

2old2beamum Russia Tue 10-Sep-13 10:05:40

Doctor in A&E "Is she a little bit Downs?" hmm

sneezecakesmum Netherlands Tue 10-Sep-13 10:31:09

My grandsons first day at MS school (CP) ..he had a cold, got v upset because all the kiddies went into another room leaving him with this strange woman (his lovely TA) cried LOUDLY and vomited all down himself. sad DD was waiting with some other mums to collect their LOs when one said 'Someones having a paddy!!' FFS He was distraught!

School got better after that btw and he loves it now smile

DD is of course anxious about collecting him with the other mums so I am going along for moral support and to spit in the face of anyone so crass grin

claw2 Tue 10-Sep-13 10:33:13

Oh yes Drs in A&E are great! when ds was being treated for asthma attack on a nebuliser 'does he go special school' hmm why will this influence how much nebuliser to give!

Developmental paed 'he is too bright to have autism'

My next door neighbour upon telling her that ds has autism 'but he is a lovely little boy, don't ever let anyone tell you he has autism' hmm why, will having autism affecting his loveliness!

'I bet he is good at maths' hmm no he isn't!

CAMHS to me 'what makes you think he has autism' hmm his diagnosis!

goldenretriever Tue 10-Sep-13 13:35:44

Sorry claw2 but had to laugh at yours! We were told that my Ds yesterday had 'bit an older child in playground, soiled himself three times' and when they asked them to undress for PE he took ALL of his clothes off. Awkward... Going for the laughing rather than crying thing!

oddgirl Tue 10-Sep-13 13:48:30

Best one for me was from DS LSA...comment in his reading record..."Mini-oddgirl has had a good day but seems to find it difficult to engage with his peers"...yes, that will be the autism love...

claw2 Tue 10-Sep-13 13:51:26

Goldenretriever, I think you have to laugh! Ds at a parents evening was told to 'take a seat' so he did and took it into the corridor! the icing on the cake...his teacher was just in the process of telling me how he hadn't notice ds taking things literally!

FanjoForTheMammaries Tue 10-Sep-13 13:55:25

"She doesn't have autism because she has facial expressions" (from senior neurologist shock)

"Stop dropping your cereal fanjosDD, no matter what it says in the autism book" (DD has motor issues) FIL.

" I can help..I can laminate some pictures"..preschool support worker.

FanjoForTheMammaries Tue 10-Sep-13 13:55:47

(Responsible for DD's early intervention)

FanjoForTheMammaries Tue 10-Sep-13 13:56:39

Also "it doesn't matter what she wears, she is a wee girl with problems"..my mum and Auntie.

hazeyjane Tue 10-Sep-13 14:00:24

'he's a controlling little article isn't he...' manageress of opportunity centre where ds used to go, re his extreme separation anxiety (ds had just passed out, from crying so much)

'we have to separate that boy from his mother...' comment made by learning disability nurse strategies to help ds be more independent.

elliejjtiny Tue 10-Sep-13 14:03:40

about DS1 when he is pushing DS2 in his wheelchair: "Poor child having to be his brother's carer"

about DS2: Well, he's not really disabled is he?

about DS4: Never mind, plastic surgeons can do wonders these days

About DLA: Various comments about free cars, free money, free shoes etc

I get a lot of people who go on about how they don't want a baby "like DS2 or DS4" but then get jealous of the mobility car or the fact that they were so exhausted from the low muscle tone and feeding problems that they slept through the night from an early age.

elliejjtiny Tue 10-Sep-13 14:09:04

Don't get me started on all the stupid comments we got when DS4 was in NICU from people who thought it was all a big joke.

uggerthebugger Tue 10-Sep-13 16:29:34

"Repent, and Jesus will cure your son!" - born-again Christian on the 52 bus, after watching him use Makaton.

She came fairly close that day to meeting her Maker a little earlier than planned...

Handywoman Wed 11-Sep-13 11:03:15

From a friend, whilst discussing 8.5yo dd2's subtle social communication problems, and the fact that they habe been recognised but not diagnosed, and the fact that dd2 recently tried to cut my arm with a pair of large, sharp, kitchen scissors:

'Well she has a friend and goes on sleepovers so that's brilliant - anyway how's your job going?'

zzzzz Wed 11-Sep-13 11:31:18

There was a marvelous one from ds1s PE teacher in the school report, something like "ds1 doesn't appear to listen in class or follow instructions" grin severe language disorder plus possible ASD!!! grin

I have to admit I was that twat at school yesterday. New school, another new Mum was telling me her ds had DS and so had repeated reception. I was busy and muttered "yes my other son has something similar" confused. I have no idea why I said that or what the fuck it even means???? I can't remember what she looks like and am not in school for a few days this week as I have surgery booked. Ho hum.

Starxx Thu 12-Sep-13 13:59:42

Oh my favourite ...... If you didnt know you wouldnt think anything was wrong!!!!!!!!!!!

HE DOESNT HAVE A DISEASE!!!

Grrr angry

RippingYarns Thu 12-Sep-13 14:02:57

DD is too cute to have issues hmm

elliejjtiny Thu 12-Sep-13 17:28:41

Today a random Chinese lady came up to DS2 and asked him why he was in a wheelchair. He just looked at her and said "why do you have a funny voice?" Really wished the ground would swallow me up and not for the first time today.

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