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I need a swift kick up the arse....

(15 Posts)
SoleSource Mon 15-Jul-13 17:37:21

I confess I rarely take my Autistic, blind DS out anywhere because other people's reactions are to much for me to handle.

I'm a weak woman in this aspect.

No weak, but you do need to get out there and practice. It will get easier then and you'll care not a jot eventually.

SoleSource Mon 15-Jul-13 18:09:26

Yes sad I dread it.

Bluebirdonmyshoulder Mon 15-Jul-13 18:18:40

I know how you feel. Would it help you to break it down on here as to what exactly you dread? i.e. is it that look on people's faces, stupid questions, etc.

I hid away for a while but now I don't and life is much better as a result. But yes, people's reactions are still hard.

SoleSource Mon 15-Jul-13 18:25:16

Is your child in a wheelchair Blue?

Today I took DS to the local shopping centre and some guy walked straight into DS's path. As if to say I'm not moving out of his way. He gave DS a dirty look too. It gets me so fucking god damn cunting angry.

I avoid taking him because I fear I would constantly be defending him and arguing. I'm almost insane from isolation so the only contact with others with speech is that shit?

SoleSource Mon 15-Jul-13 18:27:10

I'm thinking of getting DS a wheelchair even though he would only need one for very long walks.

I feel like a shut Mom and a complete coward with a shit attitude.

I have no support and do everything myself aside from 2 overnight respites per month.

I feel a failure

PolterGoose Mon 15-Jul-13 18:33:46

flowers and wine or brew and [cake]

Some people are just cunts, it may not have mattered that your ds has SNs, likelihood is that the man would have behaved the same.

I struggle with taking ds out on my own, for different reasons, and tend to stick to the same places, same cafe, same beach, same shops etc. but last summer I took him on holiday by myself and he was a dream (mostly). It's often just timing, and needing to feel a bit bulletproof, which is hard sometimes/often, especially when life is so bloody exhausting.

Where are you? Perhaps another MNSNer will meet you somewhere?

PolterGoose Mon 15-Jul-13 18:34:22

sad you're not a failure

Flappingandflying Mon 15-Jul-13 18:38:44

You are amazing. Much admiration to you. Perhaps a chair might make things easier. He will sense that you are on edge when you are out so will be more anxious. At least if he is in a chair you can relax a bit and interract with him rather than constantly worrying about idiots like the one today. Honk honk

Strongecoffeeismydrug Mon 15-Jul-13 18:43:55

I went through a stage when other people reactions really hurt but I realised how isolated I and DS was becoming.
Now I think @@ck it he's as much right to be out and about as everyone else.i do make sure we go to places when it's less busy but that's for his comfort more than anyone else's.hes only young once and I'm going to enjoy doing anything he wants to do whether others think he should be there or not.

SoleSource Mon 15-Jul-13 18:46:53

blush thank you all for your reassuring responses.

I'm in South Birmingham I'm finding life hard to cope with.

My DS teacher can be difficult and I get the impression she feels we get enough respite hmm

I had words at her today.

She fucking winds me up.

I am seeing the HT tomorrow morning about asking her to contact SS for me as they're not responding to my calls since January.

Wheelchair I need to buy as DS is not unable to walk.

Where do I go to get one?

SoleSource Mon 15-Jul-13 18:48:27

Thing is my DS is 14, not as if I haven't had enough time to deal with this massive issue.

Other people can be cruel

Bluebirdonmyshoulder Mon 15-Jul-13 19:05:30

No, bluechick is not in a wheelchair as she's still a baby. We don't know if she'll be able to walk or not. A wheelchair is a possibility for the future.

You sound very strong to me but even strong people are allowed bad days. And yes, hell is other people.

Honking for you.

SoleSource Mon 15-Jul-13 19:09:24

Bluechick Awwww cute, me want baby, I have yours please grin

Is honking the SN board support? smile

Thank you Blue and all x

SoleSource Mon 15-Jul-13 19:20:30

I'm proud of myself for this thread smile

I'm going to start another.

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