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Lack of tact and Aspergers

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peppajay Mon 20-May-13 17:57:56

My son is being referred for tests for aspergers he shows several of the traits and his speech therapist has referred him, due to his need for strict routine and little things she has noticed in her sessions with him.

I was called in today over his inability to be tactful. To him a fact is a fact!!! There is a little boy in his class who is overweight and he keeps telling him that he is fat and asking him why. Yesterday we saw him with his mum in the shop buying crisps and a Fanta and my son just shouts out 'no wonder you are so fat' as to him eating crisps and drinking pop is bad for you. Apparently the teacher has spoke to him about what he said today and apparently he didn't say it in a rude or derogatory way just in a state the fact way. He does have a problem with empathy and used to often pinch or hurt children but he has got better but he just doesn't seem to get the tact thing. He says what he wants and doesn't understand that it could upset someone.

Socially he doesn't play with the other kids in his class much as he does do and say unpredictable things.

Is the lack of tact quite a common trait with Aspergers??

thanks in advance. x

TICKLETUMBLE Tue 21-May-13 15:18:55

I am reading with interest. DS ignores verbal stuff often, but is very recptive to thumbs up and high fives...something forthe future. smile
Fabulous stuff, thanks Goblin.

flowwithit Tue 21-May-13 15:38:36

It's very common I think. Just one example of many from this weekend Ds 12yrs 'your top is funny' me 'its new do you like it?' Ds 'no it looks different its like pyjama top!'
You are sure to get an honest answer thoughgrin

notapizzaeater Tue 21-May-13 17:12:33

I always say you will never ask my son if my bum looks fat in
this.

He used to march up to smokers and ask them why they smoked as our where going to get lung cancer and die angry Hes started getting better (10) whispers it me now sadsadsad

GoblinGranny Tue 21-May-13 17:16:06

Mine used to do that too. grin
He still tells people off for parking badly, in disabled zones or outside schools. Because he looks scary and is huge now, they just tend to move.

insanityscratching Tue 21-May-13 19:32:23

Dd's school brings in outside providers to run fitness and nutrition programmes. The latest one extolled the virtues of five a day and 60 minutes exercise. The trainer wasn't exactly svelte.
Dd asked "do you eat five portions of fruit and veg and exercise for 60 minutes every day?"
"Oh yes every day" said the trainer.
"So" said dd "If you do that why are you so fat then?" grin blush

buildingmycorestrength Thu 30-May-13 18:05:33

Just to resuscitate this thread, my son (8) asked me today why I don't keep the house tidier, since he likes everything to be tidy.blush And mentioned that my cooking isn't as good as a restaurant. angry

And was rude to the Physio by acting as if she was being totally unreasonable and ignorant, asking him to do stretches to lengthen his hamstrings and calves after years of tiptoe walking, despite us saying over and over that he could easily get an injury if he doesn't stretch properly.

So I had a go at him for being arrogant and rude and made him make us all tea (since my cooking is so awful) and have told him he can tidy the whole house to morrow since he likes things so tidy. And he has to apologise to the Physio next time we go.

Have just eaten cold wraps, ham, cheese and raw veg. Quite nice actually. grin.

PolterGoose Argentina Thu 30-May-13 18:07:51

grin

Every time ds criticises my parenting ability now I ask him to let me know how I can improve and suggest he writes me a manual, this far he has declined!

buildingmycorestrength Thu 30-May-13 18:35:28

That is a top idea. grin

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