A new family arrived at DS school. From same county as us. Put their daughter in the school without putting her on the roll while they were going through the statement process. Kid was in school full time and freaking out. Parents left staff to cope even though kid wasn't on roll and school had no support/TA for her. Just wanted evidence for statementing so two months later, pulled her out of school once statement was about to be issued.
They started to ask me to take their DD home a few times and she had tea here. Lovely girl. Just not coping with school. Parents always late to pick her up and then stayed hours talking through their issues.
Problem is family have now become a bit of a pain. Dad turned up on my doorstep at 7 last Friday to 'chat'
They email me late at night and have twice tried to ring me way past 9pm. I screened and avoided them.
I am really not a 'rules' person and would help anyone but they are taking the piss,They know I have DS out of school and I feel they just took advantage of DS's school.
I really don't want get dragged into their weird world. What should I do?
(erm, just want to point out that I hate the phrase "man up", especially in view of all the extremely strong, assertive women on this board fighting for their children, "man up" really feels wrong, and I know it's just words, but words are powerful)
Language is strange. I'm more of a 'communication' person than a 'language' person, I'm sure is obvious from my appalling use of language in general, and shared meaning can often have no relevance or link to the origin of a word, though I agree there are better words with no history.
PG it is not often I am accused of being not 'man' enough! Just trying to be sensitive to a family having problems while bearing in mind that the dad at least is a very difficult character to be around. Maybe because he has no manners or is selfish or self obsessed or maybe he just doesn't understand these rules.
We need to remember that parents of children with SNs are just as diverse a group as any other, so just because you can empathise with their situation regarding their child doesn't mean you necessarily have anything else in common or have to like them.
And thanks all for not taking umbrage at my 'man up' comment.
DS1 has found coming downstairs for assessments a challenge. He will stand at the top of the stairs saying 'manning up, manning up' descend a couple of steps and then say 'oh no, girling down, girling down' and go back up (Homer in a Simpsons episode).
Obviously politically and as a strong woman myself I disapprove but I couldn't help but laugh. Also he may be reproducing gender stereotypes but he is using scripted humour to deal with a difficult real-life situation I prefer to interpret it as postmodern irony
I will try not to "man up" in polts company. I would find "girling down" in face of assessment just brilliant. I don't know why I find this kind of language so funny. Perhaps because the concept of man being superior to woman is just so.....stupid?
<whispers I laugh at fart jokes too>. < MNSN hara kiri >