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DS3 pulling out hair.

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mrsbaffled Sun 21-Apr-13 14:28:29

Is it a sensory thing? I have to admit to a lot of hair fiddling and I pull out the ones that feel 'wrong' to me. I can control it as an adult, though. Could you give some nice things to feel instead like a velvet blanket or fur cushion to stroke.

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Sat 20-Apr-13 23:13:32

Well, all I can do is what I know how to do. Seeing as he gets no formal speech therapy, just a 3-monthly observation and some Makaton worksheets, and despite stating that DS3 is hypermobile, Physio aren't going to offer him sessions because he walks and climbs.

Ignoring the fact that he is a determined little toad, he is so hyperactive that even pain and subluxes don't stop him from moving.

His wrist pops out when you put a long sleeved top on him. His joints, all of them, need strengthening. Hence starting the Physio stuff that I did with DS2.

justaboutalittlefrazzled Sat 20-Apr-13 21:39:55

oh that is so wonderful wrt the language

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Sat 20-Apr-13 18:43:11

Fiddle toys. Will try that.

On a brighter note, Physio and Speech therapy going well - he now can 'keeez' (squeeze) a foam ball, 'boi' (boing) it, and 'woah' (roll) it.

Just trying to increase the vocabulary at the moment, bugger the pronunciation, that can be worked on later! grin

It's helping his physical abilities too.

Play dough next...

<<Breaks out in a sweat at the mess of trodden in play dough after 4 years free of the bleedin' stuff...>>

nsure Sat 20-Apr-13 10:39:13

I wasn't convinced about it being anxiety either. That seemed to be cahms answer for everything .

I bought my ds a bag of fidget toys , it doesn't stop it completely but it does help.

justaboutalittlefrazzled Fri 19-Apr-13 22:25:34

My DS3 did this, it seemed to be boredom rahter than anxiety. It's often a sign they are hyposensitive to pain in that area. I worked out when he was doing it (in car, in high chair etc) and made sure he had access to fiddle toys in those places. Seemed to help.

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Fri 19-Apr-13 21:00:05

Anxiety based? Tbh, he only seems to do it when he's tired or bored, rather than being in situations that make him anxious. Not ruling it out, mind you!

I don't want to cut his hair yet, and his dad would go mad at me, his dad's family have this thing that children shouldn't have their first hair cut until it touches their shoulders...

nsure Fri 19-Apr-13 12:10:07

Hi, my ds has been doing this since he was 5, he is now 12.

He twiddles his hair down( quite expertly) and then pulls .

Was under cahms for it before amongst other things but nothing seems to help , apart from keeping his hair short which he doesnt like.

I was told its anxiety based .

I did try to give him his sister's barbie dolls , when he was younger to fiddle with their hair instead , putting on hats , fidget toys , but its really only keeping the hair short that works.

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Fri 19-Apr-13 11:29:30

A dolly that has HAIR, not hate. I don't want a hate-filled dolly in my house, I might become a bit-part in a Horror movie!! grin

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Fri 19-Apr-13 11:26:28

Hats won't work - he wouldn't even wear them as a tiny baby. I can't cut off his hair, his dad would go volcanic at me! It's only grown in the last 3 months, he only had a smattering of ginger fluff before that, so I guess he would have been doing it for longer if he had actually had hair before!!

In wondering if there is a little dolly or something that has hate with a 'real feel' so that I can redirect him to that, but I can't find anything through Google.

(DON'T Google 'little doll with real feel hair. Just DON'T!)

hazeyjane Fri 19-Apr-13 11:10:43

My friend's dd did this, at about the same age, the only thing they could do was cut all her hair off, I know it sounds really drastic (it was shaved off when she was asleep, as she wouldn't tolerate haircuts), but she also used to eat it, which was grim. I'm sorry that it wasn't something more, um, creative!

Dd2 used to do it with my hair, to the extent that I ended up with a bald spot (very attractive), I used to wear a beany hat, which sort of stopped it, but knowing what 2 year olds are like about wearing hats, I'm guessing that wouldn't work!

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Fri 19-Apr-13 11:05:45

DS3 is 2y3mo. He is having his ADOS test next month.

Just recently, he has when tired or bored, started to twiddle his fingers in his curls and then yank the hair out.

Distraction isn't working.

Any suggestions on how to stop this before he ends up bald?!

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