Did I go too far? Please have a look and tell me! To give background because dd does not behave badly at school they are ignoring the diagnosis and the blatant fact that she cannot write and are not doing anything about it. She can't organise herself so we had massive issues today about her homework which she obv hasn't brought home with her. I was so exhausted after the meltdown I sent this.
Hi Headmaster
DD has been extremely worried about homework she says has been set for her over Easter. I have looked in her school bag and in her room and there is nothing in there.
I am becoming increasingly concerned about DD and her lack of ability to organise herself is one of the traits of ADHD and a Developmental Co-ordination disorder, I don?t feel that this is being taken into consideration by the school at all. The only items in her school bag are the books she has been carrying around since the beginning of the year that have not been changed just occasionally added too. I really need this to be taken seriously now, I understand that DD does not display the same behaviour at school as she does at home, but this does not distract from the fact that she is now almost eight years old and can barely write or spell. She has extremely low self esteem and tells me she is ?useless? all the time, when she gets a low scoring on her spelling test, she tells me she gets told off, I don?t actually see how this is helping the situation because it is making her feel continually worse.
I have done what I can from home with practicing writing, reading and drawing but if this is not being taken seriously at school what more can I do? I have paid over £2,000 to see a private consultant and when she sent in forms to be filled out by the teachers during last term and got the results back you could have been talking about two completely separate children.
I feel that I am hitting brick walls all over the place and am becoming increasingly concerned about DD's writing and spelling above everything else. I really need to know now what can be done to help my daughter before she sinks even lower. Her behaviour is exacerbated no doubt by the fact that she feels like a constant failure at school.
Can you please advise me what steps are going to be taken to help her writing and spelling? I know she does direct phonics but her reading is not the issue. I have taken all the steps I can as her parent to get her formally diagnosed so I can ensure that actually there is nothing that ?I?ve? done following the break up of my relationship to create the behaviours that I have seen with DD. I am 100% committed to helping my daughter and I really need to know that 'school' is too and she is not going to move into secondary education still unable to write or spell to the degree that she is now.
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.
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I've written to the school today whilst I was angry...
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