I wondered if I could run this by you other SN parents (or anybody really!)
My five year old DS is in Y1 at mainstream school. He has cp plus delays in all areas but over the months, particularly since being in Y1, he has gradually begin to really co-operate at school, take part properly in all lessons most of the time, interact well with the other children (his social interation has always been his strong point despite his speech being very delayed). All this is obviously with the help of his full time one-to-one assistant who we have lots of respect for and who has seemed to be able to genuinely get the best from Alex.
For some reason, the last 5 school days have been a nightmare. Each day there has been something ever worse written in his home/school book (he goes on transport) with a apology from the one-to-one for having to tell us 'bad news'. He is hurting other children, not responding the withdrawal of treats, kicking his one-to-one at changing time, attacking children in the play ground. :( I have no idea what this is all about. He has always had times when he can be a bit like this, have off days etc (he is not actually aggressive usually - he just thinks all rough behaviour is a joke) but never for a consistant and prolonged period day after day.
He is his usual self at home.. which is a mixture of naughty/mischeivous/cute etc. He is not sleeping any worse than usual/eating any differently. There is no major upheaval going on in our (generally hectic) lives.. he is well in himself. (He is on Epilim and dose went up a couple of months ago but this behaviour has only just started so it can't be that.)
He is supposed to start an after school club tomorrow (football) for which his one-to-one has agreed to work over time and the school purchased a special ball! I wrote in his book today 'should he still do the club in view of behaviour?' (as other children are often not allowed to do extra curricular stuff if they are very badly behaved in school.) She wrote back that it is up to us.
I just don't know what to do.. about the football.. or any of it. No idea what's going on. He is usually so happy and funny. Each day I hope he will have gone back to his normal self but so far he hasn't. He had started to really achieve something before all this started.. and had been identified as able to perform at something like 'normal for his age' in practical maths activities which for him is amazing! Now his one-to-one has said that he is doing no learning.. the whole day is taken up with 'containing' his behaviour. :(
Can anyone advise or has anyone got experience of this type of thing? Do you think it's just a phase and it will stop as soon as it started?? [hopeful emoticon]
SJ x
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SleepyJess · 10/05/2006 17:51
oh I do feel for you. I have been going through a similar thing with dd who is 11. normally a nice girl who is naughty but not bad naughty(hope that makes sense she has cp and is severely disabled)now when being transferred from the loo to her wheelchair OR stander she has been kicking and extending. it got so bad I got a note from the deputy head
even now she is doing it and they are hoisting her. sorry to waffle but I just don't know why she is doing this. she isn't angry but laughing.
So I will watch this in the hope I can pinch some ideas from any replys you get.
Must just say that it could just be his age. being 5 and trying to imitata the rough and toumble he see's other kids doing but getting it wrong.
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