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Grrrrrrr FIL

(18 Posts)

in a restaurant, DS had a screaming fit. FIL said 'I can't stand this' and fecking walked out.

Grrrrrrrrrrr

HumphreyCobbler Sun 31-Mar-13 20:25:44

I hope he stayed out so you didn't have to put up with him anymore

Ineedmorepatience Sun 31-Mar-13 20:31:20

Better out than in star

Sorry blush he sounds delightful hmm

No. He came back and asked if he'd stopped sad

dontknowwhat2callmyself Sun 31-Mar-13 20:45:08

Sounds like something my dad would have done a few years back when DD when through a period of crying a lot whenever we took her out sad. Some people have no patience but it's a bit gutting when it's your own family I know.

HumphreyCobbler Sun 31-Mar-13 20:45:11

sorry FIL ruined your meal out. I hope you spat in his food whilst he was gone

PolterGooseLaidAChocolateEgg Sun 31-Mar-13 20:45:27

What a bastard angry

dontknowwhat2callmyself Sun 31-Mar-13 20:45:36

should be "went through"

TeggieCampbeggBlegg Sun 31-Mar-13 20:50:06

Poor DS.

Fil is a nob.

wine

Yes. All fine now, but would have appreciated a bit of support rather than withdrawal.

It ain't about him. He's a fully grown man. This is my life and I'm doing the best I can, as is his son.

auntevil Sun 31-Mar-13 21:34:10

I would have ordered double desserts, then when he came back in asked him to pick up the bill while you took DS out.
Deserves to have a financial penalty for his nobbiness. grin

LimboLil Sun 31-Mar-13 22:21:40

You should have told him to sit at another table and thrown buns at him

MareeyaDolores Sun 31-Mar-13 22:23:24

He couldn't cope with the sensory overload so sensibly gave himself some time out wink. Tell MIL: Next target 'verbalising a socially acceptable excuse'.

MIL left FIL for another man!

auntevil Sun 31-Mar-13 22:45:08

And we're surprised grin

zzzzz Sun 31-Mar-13 23:10:58

It's insecurity. Some people just really can't cope with being thought badly of in public.

The first and only time I have been out to a restaurant with a baby with my dsis, the baby was grizzling because it was bored and hungry (6months and grizzling not crying). Dsis insisted we leave and then apologised to table next door for "ruining their meal". angry She's still a fuck wit but has moved on to telling me my house is dirty and I am fat. (Both of which are true but not really any of her business, or likely to endear her to me).

Ignore FIL he sounds limited. Your ds is fine and all children cry in awkward places sometimes.

Honk honk.

dietstartstmoz Mon 01-Apr-13 08:52:00

Next time a family meal out is suggested with FIL I hope you will remind him about his behaviour towards your DS, and decline. If he is going to get up and walk out its not supportive to your family and what message is it going to send to your DS. Until he can 'man up' and try to help I would exclude him, but then I'm mean

MareeyaDolores Mon 01-Apr-13 10:42:43

I quite like limbolil's suggestion...

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