Ok, been to the EABG conference today. One presenter described a 4 child trial of strategies to help fussy eaters. You use 3 foods, 1 new one and 2 they like. New food 12 mini-blobs per session, old ones 6 mini-blobs each. Total 24 mini-blobs. This is done just before a mealtime.
3 intensities of approach, they start with the easiest, and only move up if it doesn't work. I'm going to call the levels BronzeSilverGold
15 min before meal, you present a plastic plate with a teeny-tiny 'target food' blob on, and leave it there for 5 seconds. Don't worry whether dc eats it or not, the magic is in just plonking it down. Repeat 24 times (always finish on a 'liked' food). This worked a treat on 1 or 2 of the dc.
Silver is the same, but add a reinforcer (praise?) for each bite
Gold is plonking it down + reinforcer + escape extinction (basically that if they scream, throw it, run away etc, you retrieve the dc / food / ignore shrieks and present it again. They still don't have to eat, but do have to cope with looking at it for the required 5 seconds. Repeat 24 times with the 24 mini-bites.
zzz that is a very good idea Am continuing to de-sensitise the dc and most importantly dh and myself to the idea of starters for now, and one thats mastered, might well begin the 24-blobs-you-like approach.