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Come be an angry head with me!

(102 Posts)
frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 09:56:43

It's nothing in particular just the usual little things that sets ds apart. Plus I'm really tired, plus tired of running after dd 2 who thinks everytime I say " come on this way" it's an invitation to play chase.
And I wish ds ASD would just piss off and leave my little fella be.
Come join the angry thread and get it out of your system - wish there was a scary head emoction

UnChartered Wed 20-Mar-13 10:03:16

does this have to be about our DCs?

i need a rant...

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 10:03:22

Oh and my next door neighbour has got rats in his garden - do you think the shit head has done anything about it? No he fucking hasn't - if one if those comes into my house - he'd better go into hiding

UnChartered Wed 20-Mar-13 10:03:39

about school, not just any old rant angry

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 10:04:00

Uncharted - get ranting, see above post about bastard rats

UnChartered Wed 20-Mar-13 10:08:13

i'll start then

fucking hell, what the fuck does it take to make a phone call and say 'yes, UnChartered, i've spoken to the class teacher and she's giving miniU-C different homework now, and will be taken out of her class for spellings test' instead of 2 calls from a secretary telling me you can't call me at 'x' o'clock and making another time, then cancelling that phone appt, hiding in your office at a 'meeting' and then getting a different secretary to call to say you'll pop in during the 10 mins slot we've booked at parents evening?

not a lot is my guess, but if that's the path you're choosing then i can't wait for the CAF to be put in place.

and Parent Partnership are due here today to start PR for SA

no ner <tongue out emoticon>

that feels better

brew

UnChartered Wed 20-Mar-13 10:11:52

and some arsewipe tried to nick our wheelie bin - DH had to rescue it from their drive

and they'd already started to use it <stern looks over the road and big deep voice emoticon>

Hallybear79 Wed 20-Mar-13 10:18:29

I've felt pretty fed up all week. I'm back to work in 3 weeks from maternity leave & found out the childminder who was going to take my eldest to school has decided she can't do it, which has really upset my son as we've been discussing it for weeks to prepare him & i've managed to get him to talk to her nicely everytime we see her at school & he was actually looking forward to it. My DH is away working most of the week, ive got a baby who is refusing o sleep at the moment, i'm exhausted. To top it off my eldest has been really hostile with me all week. I put my arm around him & told him i'd missed him today to which he replied "i didn't miss you. I don't love you, i love daddy"hmm. I know he probably doesn't mean it but it still hurts like hell. Just completely pissed off that i'm running around like a headless chicken all day trying to run a house look after 2 children (inc a SN) by myself to be told that when golden balls daddy (no offence DH) isn't here yet he is the hero. Really sorry for the rant, i know theres hundreds of people who have ten times more issues to deal with but just feeling sorry for myself.

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 10:27:00

That's it get it all out
absolute arsewipes - uncharted
Hally - arse of a childminder, and don't apologise anger doesn't need to be quantified - you just need to rant. I also run around like a headless chicken and also have a golden balls daddy. Annoys the hell out if me

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 10:28:14

Uncharted - date you to paint on the bin - "step away from the bin bitch"

UnChartered Wed 20-Mar-13 10:29:17

i could just let DD keep guard and she could tell them wink

she likes things in the rightful place...

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 10:41:11

Nothing like a bit of shame is there - mwah Hahahahaha - need an evil laugh emoction now

troutsprout Wed 20-Mar-13 10:44:56

You could change your broadband name to frizzcats suggestion?
One of my neighbours has the name' bigbollox'
I've narrowed it down. wink

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 10:49:27

<<narrows eyes>> wondering how trout narrows that down??? Thinking that could be quite amusing, what so of measuring tape could be used? Wondering whether to move to trouts street..... Sounds more fun

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 10:50:07

*sort - bastard fat fingers

troutsprout Wed 20-Mar-13 10:57:58

Ds had a really disappointing interview at college yesterday. I had requested someone from the Sn department... But there was no one . It was clear the wanky woman interviewing him had no idea about what she was dealing with and clearly hadn't even read the application form. She clearly made assumptions about him as soon as he walked in... And then made judgements based on his slow responses and reluctance to ponce off about himself talk
Really depressing actually... It was a jolt to the system for me...a reminder of just how difficult it will be for him coming up against such wankery.
After I got a bit shirty... She went downstairs and read the reports that they have on him... And then came back a different person! She even offered him a place on the course she runs if he doesn't get the grades he needs for A Levels
hmm
Errr nah thanks lady...think well be steering clear of that one

Reecieroo Wed 20-Mar-13 11:09:31

I'm just going to moan about the hv, so ds has possible as, rang her up yesterday in tears after a particularly trying day ds was totally dangerous while I was driving, anyways after now being referred for various services she says oh I was just about to phone u! Been here 18 months and ds is 3.5 and never seen hide nor hair of her! Then she has the cheek to say, 'have u not noticed anything about ds before?' Well er no because I didn't know what I was looking for and his toe walking was pointed out a routine asthma appointment which has kicked it all off so maybe just MAYBE if u had done ur job and visited when we moved to the area this would of been picked up on!!!!!! Grrrrr now the cow is coming round this afternoon............

Anyway mannnnnnnn this felt good thanks!!!! Xxx

woolyandtig Wed 20-Mar-13 11:34:00

Im fed up too. Cant seem to get dd2 to do anything I ask. Shes 3.5 nt and is more hard work that dd 6 poss as at the moment. She keeps taking her seatbelt off and walking around the car while im driving. Ive tried everything she can get out of everything. She never listens, runs off at school, I cant even put her in a pushchair as she can undo everything. She is so violent to other dds aswell. She constantly on the go can not sit still or concentrate. Always does the opposite to what you say. Nursery have no issues say she bright for her age, good understanding. I was wondering about speeking to someone about her but my dh says that I shudnt try and label all our dds. This comment had just tipped me over the edge, all I ment was I have tried normal parenting things and is not working im not out for a label just some advise to make my life a little more plesent rather than doing battle over everything!! Sorry to go on.

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 11:36:57

HV and stupid college people are now on the bastard list along with bin thieves, stupid school people, unreliable child minders and rats - I'm starting me a spreadsheet.

Ree - repeat after me "I'm a strong confident woman and I'm going make this HV get her arse in gear ...... Otherwise she just won't leave my house" grin

Reecieroo Wed 20-Mar-13 11:45:45

Wooly u have just described my ds, this is why I want said bastard ahem hv to kick everyone in to gear so I can access services and help, seat belts don't mean anything to ds at all.......tried threatening him with police but he doesn't give two hoots!

Haha frizz she ain't bloody leaving she can dam well do her job!!

This is sooo therapeutic! I really like it ....a lot!!!

frizzcat Wed 20-Mar-13 11:58:04

Wooly - I'm not sure who/what I should be submitting to the bastard list - car seat or your dh? Or both. They can come off if you think they deserve to
Ree- yes it is Theraputic, there's hope I won't get arrested for GBH today on anyone who looks at me the wrong way grin

LimboLil Wed 20-Mar-13 11:58:24

Okay little rant from me to the person who I have just spent the morning with. Please do not patronise me and suggest I start thinking about things that I have done nothing but think about for six months. Please do tell me what, as a mummy, you would do in my shoes. Because you are not the mummy of my child. You have not just had the year from hell and you know nothing about our home life and the impact on it because you haven't actually spoken to me in a year. So be grateful that I am not using emotional blackmail back at you. And please don't tell me that you would not want me to think that you don't want my child in your school, because that is exactly what you mean. Or rather that is what your senior colleague means, only they are too afraid to sit in a room with me and say it themselves and prefer to earwig through the wall of the frickin office next door.

And breathe.

LimboLil Wed 20-Mar-13 12:03:24

Oh and another thing. To the person I live with, if you are too much of a chicken to attend the meetings yourself or read the medical reports, then don't blame me if you can get to grips with what the eff is going on here. And this is about our child's well being and happiness, not about when I can do more work to pay off the mortgage spend on golf clubs

And breathe again.

troutsprout Wed 20-Mar-13 12:15:20

For limboli ....brew
It's good to just rant it out sometimes ... Yes?
grin
Spreadsheet also good grin

woolyandtig Wed 20-Mar-13 12:20:22

Frizz def dh, hes so hurt me. He works away so cant understand why im fighting off a breakdown with 3 dds under 6. One with possible as who I have been fighting for a dx for 4, yes 4 long lonley years. Dd2 is a nightmare, was the perfect baby and at 18 months I realy dont know what happened. But is an angel at nursery? Dd3 is nearly 2 but shes great have just normal issues with her. I sometimes think its me, im doing it all wrong.

Reec _ have u any tips? I also tell dd2 that the police will stop our car and mummy will be in lots of trouble. Her answer "will the police man ring daddy so he can come and look after the children" I just didnt know what to say. How can she have that thought process at 3.5!! I dont have any issues with her learning, its her behaviour. I dread bed times its a constant battle!!

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