Social skills, 'obsessive' friendships, dealing with 'bullying'
Hi. I didn't really know where to post this. My ds1 is 7 and possibly has some special needs. It is being looked into at the moment. Academically he is ok, making progress though near bottom of class. I am not so worried about that.
Socially, I feel very worried. Since Nursery, he has always latched onto 1 child despite my efforts to invite other kids round (the latching on has not been reciprocated generally). In Reception his 'best friend' pretty much dumped him and it really hurt him. He then moved on to another boy, who he hero worshipped. This boy manipulated and controlled him for 2 years, sometimes even phyisically bullying him - during Reception and Y1. My very sunny boy became anxious, unconfident, sleeping badly, playing up with me etc. We talked to him about how friends would treat you, tried to get other kids round to play, but he had no interest in them and was just miserable when this boy wasn't his friend and so happy when he was. In Y2 he has moved classes, thank goodness, and has managed to let go of that destructive friendship.
He has made a new friend who is a nicer boy but this is again becoming obsessive. This boy was off sick for 2 days last week and ds's behaviour/ sleep went awry. He was awful at the weekend and then on Monday morning at 5.45 he got into bed with me and said he was so lonely at school. Apparently no-one would play with him, as the other boy is his ticket into games. I think he also didn't know where to start without this boy around as he is so dependent on him. He's also really sensitive to other kids, so if they won't play it hurts him and he doesn't bounce back easily.
I feel at a loss as to how to help him. His relationships at school have seriously dented his confidence. He hides in his hood all the time. I'm so grateful he has a friend, but I don't want him to be so dependent on this friend as it's hurt him a lot in the past when this has happened.
Any advice would be REALLY appreciated...
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MerryMarigold · 20/03/2013 09:55
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