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Toilet training -ASD

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WireCatWhore Wed 13-Feb-13 18:12:57

Toddler will be 4 in April.
I have tried unsuccessfully to toilet train HM. In the last few months it has become apparent to me that he has ASD traits. I have an appt on 2nd April.

He is refusing to toilet train. Part of his problems is that if you do something a certain way, well that's how it's always done! A even though he does understand going to the toilet & he understands the books we've got, he will not do it himself.

As its half term next week, I am thinking of going cold turkey in the hope he will get it. Will have 9 days, including the weekends.

Did ay of you have trouble with toilet training your ASD children? I expect so, as it's a common thing.

I have lots of questions but will not ask everything at once.

Reading this forum, I am so shocked at how shit SN kids are treated.

I have already been warned to fight for everything I need & now I see why.

Thank you all.

MummytoMog Sat 16-Feb-13 17:27:25

I used to think it was normal to never have a solid poo btw, so the change to well formed stools was amazing and very noticeable. I have IBS so maybe madam inherited my sensitive gut.

have you got the make of the seat? We have one with handles and ladder but not a padded seat.

PS I also began to think this was the norm (and have not had any other children so didn't really know!). I hope we can get to the point of formed stools (amazing what one can feel excited about isn't it!)

MummytoMog Sun 17-Feb-13 00:20:10

It says roger Armstrong on it, but it was second hand from eBay...

WireCatWhore Sun 17-Feb-13 11:40:18

He managed a wee on the potty before bed.
Nappy was dry when he got up! He is always dry overnight anyway, but put a nappy on as don't have mattress protector yet.

He is currently holding his wee. He is contender for strongest pelvic floor in history. He is desperate to go. And last night he enjoyed his chocolate lolly after he had his wee. He knows there is a chocolate lolly when he wees on the potty.

Today he will need a poo as well (he went before I removed his nappy yesterday). That will be fun. I have new cars for pooing.

That seems to be an Australian make. Well, the one we have seems Ok in terms of his being happy to sit on it 9although not do anything else!).

I wanted to ask a related question if anyone can advise me. What is the deal with changing from regular nappies to pullups? My nanny tells me her friend (who has two small kids, one with ASD) thinks things would be better with pullups now. I (having no experience of any of this) would just like to know what the purpose of the change would be, is any?

WireCatWhore Sun 17-Feb-13 13:17:14

thedudesmummy
My toddler got confused with pull ups. He just we'd in them all the same. And if I put pants on him, he would ask for his "elephant pants" (aldi pull ups!) when he needed a wee.

I didn't use them with my older 2, they are quite a bit older though.

They could be useful for longer journeys one LO has just become potty trained.

sickofsocalledexperts Sun 17-Feb-13 13:19:17

The theory i s I think that pull-ups are a halfway house between nappies and pants, and are less absorbent - so the kid starts to feel the wetness and therefore more uncomfortable. It is supposed to lead them to want to use loo.

MummytoMog Sun 17-Feb-13 14:06:17

Ah, sorry, not much help. We got it because madam gets horrid red marks on her bum from the potty, and we thought it would encourage her to sit, but it doesn't seem to have worked...

We use pull ups at night rather than cloth now because she got very upset at putting a 'nappy' back on, whereas she can call these special monkey pants (tesco).

I might try the pullups I think. But whether it will make him make any connection between wetness and loo I don't know (he is non-verbal, but can sign and indicate things).

PS wish I could re-toilet train our (very old) cat who has just pooed on the floor. Yuk. Gve me DS's ones any day!

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