Dinky is 5 in 10 days and we are just starting out with CAMHS/integrated services, have a CAF form filled in and a CAF planning meeting being held next week. (dinky is having 'behavioural and emotional difficulties' at school and home)
There are a few ways of looking at the situation and I'm lost....
Firstly, I'm sick of everyone saying that all the things that are being uncovered as 'issues' are down to our housing predicament. (we are technically homeless living in a hostel since April 2012) as soon as anyone hears hostel they say "oh we'll, she is 4 and it's a difficult situation".
So if that is the case why did the Playgroup say dinky was "going backwards" in jan 2012... Nearly 4 months before we were made homeless!
How come she started having full scale meltdowns at 18 months and hasn't stopped, yet we only were made homeless 9 and a half months ago.
Why does she still chew toys at nearly 5 years old. Why do alarm barriers in shopping centres send her into meltdowns. Why has she always hidden or had her hands over her ears everytime I get the Hoover out? Can all this stuff that I thought was normalish that started when she was little be discounted because a few years on we were made homeless? Sure the homelessness made the behaviour worse but it only made people pay more attention to her 'quirks'...
I'm also worried because people I have met/know with children who have ASD diagnosis say dinky is almost defininetly on the spectrum and ask me loads of questions which make me feel like crap because I didn't think they were issues! One person is wholly convinced dinky is AS or high functioning ASD that she has sent an email with all the things she has noticed and quotes with accompanying links to websites explaining the differences between boys and girls presentation of ASD/AS.
The thing is do I let CAMHS decide for themselves or do I say something because I don't want the housing issue to cloud the judgement. (I spoke to a child clinical psychologist from young minds and she was totally fixed on the housing thing even though I told her most of the things I was talking about started months/years before the homelessness.)
What will CAMHS make of it if I bring up what I have read from my friend? Will they think I want an ASD diagnosis.. Because I don't think anyone wants there to be an issue with their DC, and I know full well that just because it seems to fit doesn't mean it will be the dx...
I need some friendly mum advice.....
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Dinkysmummy · 07/02/2013 11:29
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