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Starlights bad day...

(49 Posts)

Not really on the scale but in one day:

a) Hospital have cancelled ds grommets appointment for Monday (postponed for 2 weeks) which we have been preparing him for, my Aunt has come down from Lancashire to hold breastfed baby in the waiting room, and my Mum has come down from Cumbria to look after dd and take her to nursery etc.

b) Estate agents have told us that our Landlords are puting up our already extortionate rent.

So, I'm very shouty.......

inappropriatelyemployed Wed 30-Jan-13 16:18:05

You go Star! What a pain to chase these things - our lives seem to be full of this kind of crap sometimes but I know precisely what you mean about being focussed and determined about everything now! Pity the poor people we meet

Yes, although I think to an extent I upset less people than I used to as I simply go to the top and insist on talking to the decision makers from the outset.

So, I just sent an email to the Chief Exec's secretary asking what account had been taken of ds' ASD when they cancelled his appointment.

Got a call from an admin person a couple of hours later saying that it was now going ahead as was planned but with ds on a 'different' list. Whatever that means!?

No response to the ACTUAL question I asked though. But not bothered now obviously. And absolutely no shouting.

Might do the same to the Estate Agents. Ask them what account has been taken of the fact that we are good tennants who look after the property and pay on time, when setting the rent, and also what account has been taken of the fact that there are similar properties in the area charging less.

No shouting.

PolterGoose Wed 30-Jan-13 17:10:00

Starlight one of my clients really impressed me when his landlord attempted to put the rent up. He worked out the exact costs for the extra rental for a year versus the costs of re-marketing the property and loss of rent which would be incurred in the process of getting new tenant in etc. he presented it all to the landlord and the rent didn't go up for a year.

Ah yes, - and what account has been taken of the fact that it will cost them more than the increase in rent to market it and get in new people particularly as the landlords want it back in a year so might not be able to fill a 9 months contract.....

Thanks smile

ArthurPewty Wed 30-Jan-13 17:43:14

Our rent hasnt gone up in the 5 years we've lived here! Goodness me, what a day Starlight. Gripping reading. Glad you got that op reinstated.

I have wine! grin

DS and DD are plugged into electronic babysitters and baby is asleep in the conservatory.

Bluebirdonmyshoulder Wed 30-Jan-13 18:41:33

Good for you, I'm bloody impressed!

I know I'm new here and I do love the geese analogy but I think that whilst collectively we're geese, individually we're mummy bears / lionesses/ dragons!

Badvoc Wed 30-Jan-13 18:43:51

I pity them in a way star smile
You rock! X

Thanks Bad. There are no winners though. They also said that they have had to cancel someone else. I don't want that. It makes me feel flippin awful.

But then if their stupid systems allow this to happen then it is THEM wot needs to deal with the grief, not ds. I am consoled only that the re-appointment was for a day in half-term, which I suspect is largely preferred, so perhaps postponed child's parents are happy. I hope so.

bialystockandbloom Wed 30-Jan-13 21:14:23

Star, if you're (ever) stuck for childcare let me know - ds and dd are welcome over in this corner of London, and one or other of our ABA tutors are here three days a week so can look after them play with them wink

Looking after the baby might be a bit too terrifying much though

AtoZandbackagain Wed 30-Jan-13 21:37:03

I had an op cancelled at very short notice due to 'non-clinical' reasons i.e. the operating theatre had run out of sterilised tools!

The NHS guidance states that they must offer an appointment within 28 days or they have to pay for treatment at a hospital and time of your choice (including private).

www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/2563.aspx?CategoryID=68&SubCategoryID=162

porridgeLover Wed 30-Jan-13 21:38:31

Star I havent been back on since lunch and I see that at 14.44 the surgery was still cancelled.
By 15.11, you had got it sorted and were back on to say surgery re-instated.
grin grin grin
Clearly, there needs to be a 'newly diagnosed' workshop for parents run by starlight; up and down the country.
Well done.

Bluebirdonmyshoulder Wed 30-Jan-13 22:07:01

Well we already have Moondog's ABA workshop to look forward to so let's organise Star's 'How to Kick Ass and Influence People' course!

WarmAndFuzzy Wed 30-Jan-13 22:18:26

Sorry, I've come on a bit late but glad it's looking a bit more manageable now!

Guess what? smile

PolterGoose Thu 31-Jan-13 11:32:50

Go on then...

PolterGoose Thu 31-Jan-13 11:39:57

Sorry, that may have come across a bit rude, it was meant in an eagerly anticipating sort of tone grin

lol. - Rent's staying the same.

<off to buy a lottery ticket>

Dev9aug Thu 31-Jan-13 12:03:20

You won the lotto last night...grin

Dev9aug Thu 31-Jan-13 12:03:56

gringrin cross posts... grin

PolterGoose Thu 31-Jan-13 12:07:25

Well done

starfishmummy Thu 31-Jan-13 12:18:28

Well done Star!!

Thanks for that link AtoZ. DS is listed for an operation that is notorious for being cancelled at the last minute because there are no critical care beds available; nice to know that is included.

Oh yes. Thanks AtoZ. Completely missed your post. Very helpful for the future.

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