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im a daft bugger me

(13 Posts)
thriftychic Tue 29-Jan-13 21:54:59

had an appointment with a parent and family worker that camhs referred us to and the lady mentioned that she had been seeing another mum with a similar sounding problem with her son of the same age . i said it would be nice to talk to someone in the same boat and the lady said she would mention it to this other mum .
the other mum apparently is happy for me to contact her and i now have her number but being the shy numpty i am i dont know what to say now and feel a bit daft ringing a complete stranger !!

zzzzz Tue 29-Jan-13 21:59:55

Phone and ask her if she'd like to meet for a coffee in town. I did this with some of our geese (other mn sn posters) and it was lovely. Just do it, if you hate it, don't do it again.

Honk honk

mynameisnowsonicthehedgehog Tue 29-Jan-13 22:00:22

Go on... take that leap of faith.

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain and remember she's in the same situation as you and probably feels exactly the same.

I get friends of friends of friends calling me quite a bit. It's nice. I sometimes wonder what they want or if there is something they are hoping I will do for them, but usually they don't want anything. We have a nice chat. It's nice to talk to someone who has similar challenges that still appears to be quite normal. It's reassuring and perspective-giving.

bochead Tue 29-Jan-13 23:31:15

I'd have gone totally bat s&(t crazy by now if not for having met a couple of local SN Mums. Knowing your experiences aren't completely unique can make all the difference.

Do it - as it gives you that crucial bit of mental insulation on those days when the whole world appears to be tutting at you and 8 hours sleep seems like an impossible dream.

Honking

zzzzz Tue 29-Jan-13 23:58:34

Every mother who's child has so much as an ingrown toenail shuffles up to me and spills. grin

I give them tea and nod a lot.

I know very few whose children have any significant issues, and they have been a breath of fresh air in a rather tiring world. (And yes I mean you MNSNSW!)

NoHaudinMaWheest Wed 30-Jan-13 00:50:01

Yes just suggest meeting for a coffee somewhere convenient. Of course you might not hit it off but you might find as I did that it is fantastic to talk about how things really are without being embarrassed or having to explain everything. (Or be sympathetic about ingrown toenails when you have bigger fish to fry!)

I would love to have someone to 'chat' too, instead of my social life being tied in a computer. Ring me 1st for a trial run grin

if it helps, I too am a daft bugger, all the emails I sent last night and now hoping something comes of it but leaves me out haha

ouryve Wed 30-Jan-13 10:41:06

I'm just as daft. I often wish I had someone to talk to, but then I find talking and even the thought of talking so exhausting.

Ineedmorepatience Wed 30-Jan-13 12:14:32

If its a mobile number, I would text first. So much easier, or home at a daft time like school run time and leave a message.

Gosh the lengths I would go to to avoid phone conversations blush

signandsmile Wed 30-Jan-13 20:41:52

am now smiling at the thought of being a breath of fresh air,,, sign waves at zzz

and thinking MNSNSW need another meet up... was gonna offer one in Swindon, think i will start a thread... hmm

and as for thrifty take the plunge, you have nothing to lose, (altho I like poulters text first idea)... good luck, grin

thriftychic Thu 31-Jan-13 13:10:43

I have sent a text , awaiting reply
had a sudden thought that this lady could be a mumsnetter , anyone here from Rochdale ?

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