That is all kinds of fucked up Imogen isn't it? Wrt ooh gp they will only send him to a and e if he is seriously ill. I think he needs some cold sore meds/acyclovir (herpes meds) And it means you can keep him off school next week as you have new to ooh gp and he has been seen.
I do get that, imogen, I really do. I felt similarly, despite it only being the HT heavily implying that I was fabricating. It hadn't gone any further at all. Add to that, the situation was only escalated in 3 weeks!
Bottom line, I've got to live with my decisions when I look back as an old lady. At least if it goes pear-shaped, it already was. If I didn't try, I'd never know if I could have changed life for her.
You have got to do something. This is not going to change, it really isn't. Your DS isn't going to suddenly say
"You know what...this school, with it's unchallenged bullying by children and teachers, it's lack of support and the fact that everyone blames me for having SEN....well it's ok really, because it's better than the other really terrible one..."