Thanks yes I think it will get to me, I am definitely more sensitive today as dds teacher was saying about the social worker ringing and asking did she think dd has autism and she'd said sometimes. I am guessing this was before I said she has a diagnosis now but it's still wound me up a bit, just the idea of people speculating but i know that's not what they were doing and I gave permission for her to call and discuss dd!
Yes I know what you mean, I have thought so much about what it would be like to have a cause for dd's difficulties and I know I don't have a cause for the autism but this is so much further ahead than ever before, I have sat up going over condition after condition trying to work it out!
ASD is a good dx to have. To some extent it can mean whatever you need it to mean to explain behaviour and access services. No two children with ASD are the same. Sadly provision is generic, but I think whatever dx you get the provision is pretty much the same tbh. Some of it makes a difference, a lot of it doesn't, but having the dx gives you leverage and protection.