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Decree absolute came through today.

(36 Posts)
EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Tue 08-Jan-13 20:51:20

I know this isn't relationships but you lot are my friends and I wanted to share. It's taken 16 months due to getting finances agreed post 18 for DS2, despite dickhead admitting adultery, but I am finally, officially, legally divorced. grin , sad , confused , actually make that grin

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Fri 11-Jan-13 14:45:54

thanks again all you geese. grin I think the only solution to the skin of a much fatter woman is plastic surgery, but in the absence of the cash, time, courage and vanity of that, maybe spanx? blush

coff33pot Fri 11-Jan-13 08:53:10

thanks and wine Ellen xx New year and total new start. End of a chapter and the start of something new and good smile

auntevil Thu 10-Jan-13 16:47:46

Don't know what to advise about the skin - bet someone on another MN topic would let you know!
Do we all need to bring a virtual dish to the virtual party tomorrow?

WilsonFrickett Thu 10-Jan-13 16:29:37

I'm out Friday but I'll be raising a real one to you Ellen. You've come through a shit time with grace. You're always one of the first to post when someone else needs help or support too. All round top burd. thanks wine

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Thu 10-Jan-13 16:26:43

Friday night is virtual Cava party night! grin

frizzcat Thu 10-Jan-13 16:25:05

So what we need is a thread tomorrow night titled - "Ellen's virtual divorce party - bring cava!" - I'm there

Firsttimer7259 Thu 10-Jan-13 16:03:34

Honk Honk. Im glad you are through to the next chapter.

Cheeseswept Thu 10-Jan-13 06:26:18

New Year,new start. In January it's always good to have a clear out of all the rubbish and baggage you don't need in your life grin

justaboutchilledout Thu 10-Jan-13 02:32:23

Congratulations. Onwards and upwards! And I am jealous of the weight loss!

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Wed 09-Jan-13 19:38:10

Thank you all! I've just come in from a first aid course or would have been on earlier. A virtual party sounds great, but maybe some virtual Cava? wine

Couldn't have managed it without the support and company of you lot. thanks And some RL friends, too, of course, but MN has been a great find for me. There's always someone, somewhere up for a chat. Xx

auntevil, the first 2 stone just fell off due to stress within 3 months and I liked the look of this slimmer me, so I've just kept at it. I've always been a bit of a yoyo dieter, but I haven't weighed this little for more than 20 years and so far it's staying off. Shame I have the skin of a much larger woman! blush

signandsmile Wed 09-Jan-13 19:16:37

just wanted to echo all of the above, wishing you a really great 2013!

flowers

auntevil Wed 09-Jan-13 17:54:13

Congratulations smile

When's the party to celebrate?

Amazing diet when you've lost that amount of useless blubber in 16 months.
Losing 4 stone is pretty impressive too! grin

inappropriatelyemployed Wed 09-Jan-13 14:43:29

I'm really pleased that stressful phase in your life is over Ellen. I hope 2013 is a really happy one for you. You provide such valuable support to others.

bialystockandbloom Wed 09-Jan-13 14:37:38

Oh well done Ellen for seeing this through with such strength and dignity - a stressful, horrible chapter is now over and you can look forward to good things. Well done on the weight loss too, brilliant! I could do with some of that too.

Onwards and upwards! x

Ineedmorepatience Wed 09-Jan-13 14:12:43

Have just seen this thread, congrats ellen on the divorce and the amazing weight loss.

I never married mine to cut out the hassle if I wanted to dump him quickgringrin

Only joking wink

Honking for you flowers wine

moosemama Wed 09-Jan-13 14:02:52

Congratulations Ellen.

You are an amazing, strong woman and your life, from today, is going to be great! wine

Badvoc Wed 09-Jan-13 13:14:31

Congrats Ellen.
2013 is going to be your year...I can feel it! smile

AtoZandbackagain Wed 09-Jan-13 12:29:59

Congratulations Ellen. You'e dumped a lot of weight (yours and the weight of him grin).

I have never regretted my divorce for one minute.

DameMargotFountain Wed 09-Jan-13 11:41:16

i remember when i got my decree ab - went out and celebrated by imbibing drinks beginning with all the letters in DIVORCE!

not a recommendation, i felt like pure shit the day after, but it started my new life with a bang!

well done Ellen - sending more [cake] and thanks as you've been a rock for us here even though you've been going through it yourself

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Wed 09-Jan-13 11:32:17

grin Love it! thanks And virtual cake is calorie free....

zzzzz Wed 09-Jan-13 11:29:07

(that's a flame that is)

zzzzz Wed 09-Jan-13 11:28:39

...........grin..........
...........blush..........
...........angry...........
...........H...........
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...........N...........
...........K...........
HONKHONKHONK
HONKHONKHONK
HONKHONKHONK
HONKHONKHONK
HONKHONKHONK

Home made goose cake with candle to celebrate auspicious XP disengagement and sabotage sveltness. grin

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Wed 09-Jan-13 08:20:02

grin Share the honking love...

zzzzz Wed 09-Jan-13 01:11:33

Ellen I'm glad it's settled and totally jealous of the 4 stone. envy

I must do something about my weight. blush

You have been incredible over the last couple of years. You won't be shot of him but at least you're not tied to him.

Honk honk

I'm not going to attempt honkin madness because you always have to redo it for me and this is your party!

HONK!

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Tue 08-Jan-13 23:06:01

thanks geese (and ducks!)

BeeMom, good timing!

Got my copy through the post today and it was made absolute last Friday. I've been divorced all weekend and didn't know. I thought I might shed a few tears, but, you know what, I may do in the next few days/weeks, but today it's fine. I would prefer him to be out of my life, but with 3 boys who still love their dad, I'm never going to be completely shot of him. Grrr!

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