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Decree absolute came through today.

(36 Posts)
EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Tue 08-Jan-13 20:51:20

I know this isn't relationships but you lot are my friends and I wanted to share. It's taken 16 months due to getting finances agreed post 18 for DS2, despite dickhead admitting adultery, but I am finally, officially, legally divorced. grin , sad , confused , actually make that grin

Icedcakeandflower Tue 08-Jan-13 20:58:54

What's that old saying again, "today is the first day of the rest of your life"

Honk honk

shazian Tue 08-Jan-13 21:02:14

Onwards & upwards, here's to the start of your next chapter, the new you grin xx

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Tue 08-Jan-13 21:05:51

thanks

Tell you what, it really is the new me. I've lost nearly 4 stone and I'm now neither obese or even overweight! Every cloud, eh? grin [honk]

frizzcat Tue 08-Jan-13 21:14:36

Don't you think you're being a bit selfish? I mean fancy getting divorced in Jan when we're all on post Christmas detox!! grin
Now we have to break the detox and hit the wine

On a serious note I know this all has been pretty shit for you and you've put up a really brave front and stayed strong, for what it's worth I think you're well shot of the prick loser ahem fella. You're worth more and deserve better.

Now where's the bottle opener......

frizzcat Tue 08-Jan-13 21:17:00

4stone!! So basically if we all got divorced weight watchers would go out of business! grin

Well done Ellen.

Honk

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Tue 08-Jan-13 21:24:47

Best and easiest diet ever. wink Don't actually recommend it, mind you. I probably didn't have the healthiest lifestyle for a few months, but it wasn't as if I was going to waste away. blush

wine wine wine [chocolate] [shreddies] [olives] wine wine wine

All the food groups! grin

marchduck Tue 08-Jan-13 21:40:45

Sounds like a great diet to me Ellen - all the best for a new start, and freedom!

zumbaleena Tue 08-Jan-13 21:45:18

:-)))

BeeMom Tue 08-Jan-13 22:39:38

Where I live, the decree absolute is "official" 30 calendar days from the day it is signed by the magistrate... mine was signed on January 15th, making my divorce entirely official on St. Valentine's Day - the day of love.

It was my final act of "good riddance", and I didn't even plan it that way grin

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Tue 08-Jan-13 23:06:01

thanks geese (and ducks!)

BeeMom, good timing!

Got my copy through the post today and it was made absolute last Friday. I've been divorced all weekend and didn't know. I thought I might shed a few tears, but, you know what, I may do in the next few days/weeks, but today it's fine. I would prefer him to be out of my life, but with 3 boys who still love their dad, I'm never going to be completely shot of him. Grrr!

zzzzz Wed 09-Jan-13 01:11:33

Ellen I'm glad it's settled and totally jealous of the 4 stone. envy

I must do something about my weight. blush

You have been incredible over the last couple of years. You won't be shot of him but at least you're not tied to him.

Honk honk

I'm not going to attempt honkin madness because you always have to redo it for me and this is your party!

HONK!

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Wed 09-Jan-13 08:20:02

grin Share the honking love...

zzzzz Wed 09-Jan-13 11:28:39

...........grin..........
...........blush..........
...........angry...........
...........H...........
...........O...........
...........N...........
...........K...........
HONKHONKHONK
HONKHONKHONK
HONKHONKHONK
HONKHONKHONK
HONKHONKHONK

Home made goose cake with candle to celebrate auspicious XP disengagement and sabotage sveltness. grin

zzzzz Wed 09-Jan-13 11:29:07

(that's a flame that is)

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Wed 09-Jan-13 11:32:17

grin Love it! thanks And virtual cake is calorie free....

DameMargotFountain Wed 09-Jan-13 11:41:16

i remember when i got my decree ab - went out and celebrated by imbibing drinks beginning with all the letters in DIVORCE!

not a recommendation, i felt like pure shit the day after, but it started my new life with a bang!

well done Ellen - sending more [cake] and thanks as you've been a rock for us here even though you've been going through it yourself

AtoZandbackagain Wed 09-Jan-13 12:29:59

Congratulations Ellen. You'e dumped a lot of weight (yours and the weight of him grin).

I have never regretted my divorce for one minute.

Badvoc Wed 09-Jan-13 13:14:31

Congrats Ellen.
2013 is going to be your year...I can feel it! smile

moosemama Wed 09-Jan-13 14:02:52

Congratulations Ellen.

You are an amazing, strong woman and your life, from today, is going to be great! wine

Ineedmorepatience Wed 09-Jan-13 14:12:43

Have just seen this thread, congrats ellen on the divorce and the amazing weight loss.

I never married mine to cut out the hassle if I wanted to dump him quickgringrin

Only joking wink

Honking for you flowers wine

bialystockandbloom Wed 09-Jan-13 14:37:38

Oh well done Ellen for seeing this through with such strength and dignity - a stressful, horrible chapter is now over and you can look forward to good things. Well done on the weight loss too, brilliant! I could do with some of that too.

Onwards and upwards! x

inappropriatelyemployed Wed 09-Jan-13 14:43:29

I'm really pleased that stressful phase in your life is over Ellen. I hope 2013 is a really happy one for you. You provide such valuable support to others.

auntevil Wed 09-Jan-13 17:54:13

Congratulations smile

When's the party to celebrate?

Amazing diet when you've lost that amount of useless blubber in 16 months.
Losing 4 stone is pretty impressive too! grin

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